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[mummyloveslucy]

Hi, I'm a bit concerned about my nephuew, he is very intellegent and is in his second year at secondery school. All through his primary school, he was always so enthusiastic about learning and always worrieing wether he would pass his exams and get good grades. It was for this reason his parents decided not to let him take his 11+ because they thought the pressure would be too much for him and rather he did well at a regular school. He is such a sweetie but I've noticed a change since he's started secondery school. He dosn't seem to have any enthusiasm for learning any more. He's in the top sets but says he'd rather move down a set to make it easier. This just dosn't seem like him. He jokes about getting in to trubble and messing around. Is this just a normal thing for teenage boys? his parents don't seem too concerned about it but I know his Grandma is a bit worried.

It is almost universal in year 8.

they realise that they have to work, and at the same time the hormone pixie comes to play and learning is somehow no longer top of their agenda.

they get through it. I'#m sure he will be fine. By the end of year 9 most of them are through the worst of it.

(I'm taking it that you don't have much experience of teens

Hi thanks for that It's good to know that he'll get over it, that's probubly why his parents don't seem woried. I don't have any experience with teens appart from being one a long time ago. My DD is only 2.5. Does this meen that she'll go through it as well? hopfully it's more of a boy thing!

ah, girls go through it in a different way.

they go all arsy, convinced that you know nothing and that you are just so sad, and only they have ever been in love before, and how would you know anything.

I atually love teenagers, but they can be a PITA , poor loves

yes my son has just started year 9. they're still kids. let them enjoy school before the terrible looming exams.

God knows year 8 is about the only time they get to not care about these things. Agree with MB. Too early to worry yet.

ah, are you in the stage of stale sweat + lynx, or has he progressed to washing then using the lynx?

Smelling lynx is a sign that they are getting through the worst of it. You get a horrid time of nasty underarm niff and nasty lynx, and then one day they realise that the girls will never fancy them unless they shower.

then you can never get them out of the bath room!

ooh mb mil produced a large lynx set she is giving my son for christmas. hehe

LOLOLOL

Lucky you!

He'll love it

can't wait

It is generally looked down upon to be too good at your school work and you most certainly should not be enthisiastic about school beyond a certain age. That age being around 10.

I presume he thinks it would be easier to move down a set because he would fit in more with the lads and not be seen as a swotty swot, rather than he really wants the work to be eaiser.

Do you think it would have been better for him to go to the grammar school or is it just the same there? I don't know if the 13+ still exists but I think he's quite happy in his own way. I don't think he'd want to change really.

I think that it is fairly universal.

the grammar school boys that I met at university were just cleverer PITA!