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can i move dd to another school

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ELR · 21/11/2007 21:07

basically am not happy with dds school she has just started in reception the reason i sent her to this school was she already attended, the nursery and it is across the road from our house ofsted report only got a grade 3 but they have a fab head,think i have made a mistake there is a shool about a mile away which has a grade 1 ofsted and looks fab naive of me but did not realise it was there, can i just try and get her in there or is that not possible and is it a bad idea??

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Heated · 21/11/2007 21:09

Is it just the Ofsted report alone that's making you think this or other factors?

smartiejake · 21/11/2007 21:16

Ignore ofsted if you are otherwise happy with the school. The school I work at came out at a grade 3 and if it weren't for the fact it's 15 miles away from where I live I would much rather my dds went there than the grade 2/1 they go to. The report was pants. All the parents at the school gates who read it thought they had sent the wrong report! It certainly bore no resemblance to the uncaring, pay for every club, "get the parents to do all the work and we take the credit for the SATs results" school we spend all our time complaining about!!

CarGirl · 21/11/2007 21:21

Ofsted is worth reading - ignore the results but yes read it - and read between the lines. If you are happy with the school and your dc is happy there being local does count for a lot.

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ELR · 21/11/2007 21:26

no not really the ofsted as thats why i took no notice at first dd seems to be going backwards all the books she brings home are torn or missing pages and class teacher is a bit weird like this morning she said goodmorning .... 5 times right in dds face as she did not respond as was holding drink in mouth, then when i collected her today she called me over and said that dd had been the cause of a major incident and had been sent to another class for time out, for talking on the mat and telling her friend she did not want to be friends anymore, last night at parents evening i was told that her social skills are not very good as she sometimes does not want to play with a certain boy.(nursery have always said she was great ect ect)
This is just the icing on the cake, i have been thinking this for a while(about moving her)

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CarGirl · 21/11/2007 21:28

if there is a place at another school that you would prefer her to attend then I beieve yes you can move her. You need to go and talk to the school that you would like her to go to and ask if she can go there. They will ask why and may wonder why you haven't spoken to the head at her existing school and raised your concerns.

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ELR · 21/11/2007 21:34

i know i should speak to the head or her teacher but i really dont think it will help.
Last week dd had not eaten her packed lunch so i told her class teacher class teacher informed me that she had eaten it i showed her lunch she then backtracked and said the reason why was because my dd did not like the person she was sitting with, then a few days later teacher came out and said holly has not been eating her dinners so i said well all her packed lunch is gone she said oh i thought she was on dinners!!
i queried why dd had been sitting alone at lunch (dd told me this whilst chatting)teacher said it was not true and she would take a picture next time to show me

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Loshad · 21/11/2007 21:37

So you want to move your daughter because school tell you she's not behaving

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ELR · 21/11/2007 21:39

no i know it sounds like that but that is just the last few days previous to this there have been no issues

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ELR · 21/11/2007 21:44

the issues are that i dont feel she is developing as she should, and there is a much better school with better results not so far away , i am not so naive that i think my dd is an angel she has her moments

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santaoftheopera · 21/11/2007 21:47

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Heated · 21/11/2007 21:49

I think if you move schools it has to be for the right reasons to make the upheaval worth it.

You also need to find out if the other school have space. Given it's good standing, it might be full and therefore you'd be tilting at windmills if you never got in.

CarGirl · 21/11/2007 21:49

I really think you should ask to speak to the teacher again to try and get a better feel for what is going on. Has the teacher been at the school for a while?

camicazi · 21/11/2007 21:50

You can move your child from a school to another if there are places -- but will there be if it is so highly rated? You should ring the head of the other school and if there are places, go and visit and think very carefully. You could be jumping out of the frying pan and into the fire iyswim!

CarGirl · 21/11/2007 21:59

I also think the school is under no obligation to accept??? They may want to ensure that you have given the current school and opportunity to resolve issues. From their point of view perhaps they may see you as a stroppy trouble maker?

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ELR · 21/11/2007 22:01

teacher is new only second year as a teacher, last week i donated a load of books because the ones they were sending home were so bad, there has been no mention of levels of reading, when i asked questions at parents evening teacher did not respond well.
When i asked what in her opinion could be done about dds social skills she suggested i withdraw treats and tv, surely if she has a problem she needs encouragement?? she also told dd today that if she misbehaved i would stop her treats, this is for me to tell her if i decide to do this
Yes need to research more into other options not just assume there will be a place at another school

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ELR · 21/11/2007 22:06

cargirl i see your point thats why i posted i know it sort of looks like that but it really isnt, its just an instinct thing dd is very articulate and observant and tells me in great detail about her day who she has sat with and what activities she has done ect, some of the things she tells me i find very strange. People have always commented on her outgoing and social behavior as a good thing not an issue.

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CarGirl · 21/11/2007 22:13

I wondered if the teacher is NQT I really think you should go and chat to the headteacher. Mention in a nice way how you are struggling with the teachers approach to your dds outgoing and social behaviour. Perhaps the teacher needs better support than she is getting.

it could be that your dd chats at every opportunity which could be very disruptive to the class and the teacher hasn't worked out a startegy to deal with her and hasn't the guts/sense to tell you this. Ask the teacher outright what is it about your dd that needs to be encouraged and then ask the teacher to create a reward chart for it and that with your agreement you will gladly buy your dd a treat for getting stars on her school chart.

Our R teacher has done this with various children, one who wouldn't eat his lunch, one who cried EVERY DAY, one who used to be a bit too ready to thump! They all made great progress. There was a huge difference in "quality" between the NQT that the other R class had and the very experienced and wonderful teacher my dd had.

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ELR · 21/11/2007 22:14

dd is one of only two white children in the class and many of the children have english as the second language as a result some time is spent on the children that do not speak english so well, do you think this could be an issue also not had any playdates yet due to vast cultural differences could this contribute to her social skills? never really thought of it before just something on another thread that made me think

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CarGirl · 21/11/2007 22:15

I'm must go to bed but quickly want to add, you can move to a better school etc but you can't prevent your dc getting a bit of a duff teacher one year or indeed a mix of children that doesn't work particularly well. Or indeed a child in the class that gets away with being vile and has a mother who says "my son wouldn't do that". You could move schools now only to find in year1 your dd ends up with a NQT and back to square one!

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ELR · 21/11/2007 22:17

was thinking something like that have discussed with dd about a treat at weekend if she has been good all week

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ELR · 21/11/2007 22:18

thanks for all your posts have a good sleep

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CarGirl · 21/11/2007 22:21

but you need specifics from the teacher at what behaviour she would like to see more of/improve in your dd. Specifics are then easy to monitor in a classroom situation and easy for your dd to achieve. Perhaps your dd is finding the adjustment from free choice at pre-school to being told what to do at school all morning. I was absolutely shocked to find out that my dd3 does as she is told at school as she gave pre-school a run for the money without ever actually being naughty or not doing as she is told! In many ways reception is a big shift for them, for a very sociable child I can imagine it's quite annoying to suddenly be quiet and sit on the carpet and listen so much etc. plus perhaps your dd hasn't realised that this behaviour is not welcome in the classroom??

These are only suggestions as to what may be going on. dd3 didn't eat much lunch for the first 2 weeks due to too much chatter she has now learned that she will be very hungry and it's a long time until 3pm if she doesn't sush and eat up.

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ELR · 21/11/2007 22:28

perhaps you are right about social aspect preschool thought she was the bees knees so perhaps the shift of attention is making it hard for her, think i will have a chat with teacher about some kind of reward system and ways of dealing with her if anything occurs

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