Do i go and speak to his teacher or should i expect this???

[pinkrangernowwobbles]

DS1 started reception in September and is doing really well seem to be enjoying it.
Yesterday while rolling around on the floor ( you know the things that boys do!) she shouted "my fucking leg" and shouted this 5/6 times, me and dh looked at each other so shocked but didn't say anything straight away, then after 5 mins when he had stopped saying and doing something else i asked him where he had heard that word ( we have never swore in front of him/at home so we know its not outside of school) he says BOY A and BOY B say it in his class and also someone in year 6 ???? we explained its a really bad word, not to say it at home etc.....
Now i know we are going to come across things like this at school but he is only 5, today infract ..., didn't expect so soon, fell like not sending him no more i dont want him to hear things like that.............. i have no idea how to handle this as he is the first one ive had at school........advice appreciated

It is something that they come across im afraid. You just have to keep reiterating that it is not a nice word to use.

I remember my eldest coming home from school once and he got a bit frustrated at his homework and said " oh for fucks sake"

Ds2 has been the same- but when we drill it in that its an unpleasant word, we dont hear them say it again.

I would be sad too.
But I'm not sure what the teacher could do, tbh.
Maybe the head could speak to the children about respecting others, and not using words that are inappropriate, but apart from that....

I think you did the right thing - especially not jumping down his throat. don;t make a big deal out of it - don;t give swear words a kind of elevated status. just keep calmly explaining that they're not nice.

Sounds like you handled it really well. Might be an idea to see if he uses the word again then have a quiet word with his teacher. At least school will be aware and can keep an eye on things.

We had our DS come up to us last year in YR and ask what does "fucking shithead mean".
I too didn't expect it so soon, but it seems to be really widespread now, even at the age of 4 or 5 .
I just said it was a nasty name for someone, and that he wasnt to use it, and left it at that, without making a fuss. He said one of his friends was called it by his brothers!!
He knows that there are words we don't use and I really don't like, and so far this year it hasn't happened (yet).
I had a word with the teacher too, who said they are always aware of it and try to discourage it, but I appreciate they can't monitor it all the time. Just makes me really . I never knew these words until I was nearly a teenager, and even then would have been too scared to say them out loud.

Thankyou ladies, i know there is not much if anything the teachers can do, we thought the new words he picked up at school were " poohey poohey bum head" we thought that was bad and ignore that! you just dont expect so young, and where are these children in his class (4/5) hearing them words! - i just want to wrap him up in cotton wool and shield him form this big ugly world!

In our state primary the penalties are much harsher than that because so many parents got fed up with having that language brought home.

if it's any consolation, most children quickly learn what's appropriate language and what's inappropriate

ds1 has Tourette's Syndrome and has been swearing since he was 18 months old - we never swear in front of him (I really hate swearing) so he didn't get it from us. He's now 10 and his swearing has waxed and waned according to his TS - ds2 and dd have been exposed to all kinds of appalling language, and I was terrified they'd head off to playgroup and say "f you, b*" to the play leader (or possibly something worse but ... neither of them has ever sworn - ever

They have an innate realisation (that their big brother completely lacks) that we don't say certain words - and they stick to it, so hopefully now your ds realises you don't like him saying it (without turning it into a big, exciting taboo which would have the opposite effect ...) he'll leave those kind of words in the school playground

I'm with mimsmum - kids do have the capacity to understand, to be grown up about swearing, dds know every word going (with maybe one exception) and they just don;t use them. and I think it's really important, like she says, to not make it into a big exciting taboo.