Homeschool !?!

[nicnak88]

I am applying to homeschool my 12yr old daughter, she started s1 August last year. As we all know there's been lockdowns through the past year but in the time they have been at school she has been bullied and had police involved with that, the school put a few measurements in place, fair enough. Then she was harassed verbally in a sexual nature by a boy in her year and like 5 others in higher years which again police were involved, we found out xmas eve they were all charged thankfully, yes the school did a couple changes but couldn't do much as it was out of school time and now since the most recent lockdown she has been bullied again by a group of girls in higher years, who have been making her feel very uncomfortable and now telling her daily to jump off a bridge, so I as you can imagine and fuming and applying to homeschool but we need her dad's consent...... well she is lucky if she sees him more than twice a year we spoke to him yesterday and he seems dead against it but said he needs time to think he agrees that school isn't the best right now but don't think homeschooling is the answer 🤷‍♀️.. can I still proceed without his consent somehow,, he doesn't see how it's affecting her despite hearing her in tears begging him yesterday.. I feel so helpless right now

I'm sorry your poor daughter is being bullied. That all sounds horrendous. I hope she can recover from it in some way. Why is her father against homeschooling? What alternative has he suggested?

He hasn't the the thing he has agreed he don't want her back there so said to keep her off,, that isn't going to impact him is it it will be me that gets chased surely this the best and legal way, yet but he's constantly saying about socialising and being too much for me to take on and that he thinks we just decided it over night,, we didn't I've seriously considered this I've read right into it what it entails he just isn't letting us get it across I sent him all the info andhes not even acknowledged and he's now ignoring her calls he messaged her today saying that he hasn't had time to think about it yet what he isn't realising is the attitude and her taking it out on me because of how he's being I know it's a parents job to do so and I would again and again but its frustrating how little he even bothers yet a huge decision lays in his hands 😔.

As far as I know you don’t have to apply to homeschool. You just deregister your child from the school she is in. If her father objects then I guess he’ll need to take it to court to have her ordered back to school.

Are there other schools in the area she could attend? He may be happier to agree to a school move than school removal.

You don't need to apply! And if Dad wants her back in school, he'll have to take it to court.

Please look at Education Otherwise:

www.educationotherwise.org/

Where we are is a little town out the way so it's the only high-school in area others are a fair bit out and being so close to summer holidays and rising cases in the schools round near us, I had looked into all of this before coming to my decision it was the local council said about his consent as all be it limited he still has contact with her, I feel to just proceed homeschooling regardless of his choice just wanted to do it all by the books (legally) ya know. They mentioned it as they said they have been caught in sticky situations over it before, this is what I get for trying to do things the right way huh. I just hope he realises his relationship with her is hanging on this to say she is angry with him right now would be an understatement it's me telling her to hold back until he has replied I don't know why but while there is an all be it slim chance he might come around (doubtful) but need to hold onto that right now.

Please talk to education otherwise and read the law and the guidelines.

YOU are always responsible for your DD's education. Before, you chose to delegate to a school. But you don't need to. You can hone educate and it can be quite marvellous and not like school at all.

Best of luck x

Keep her off until you can seek more advice about what different options there are. If anyone questions you then surely its enough that shes being badly bullied and to say shes off for her mental health for the time being. Maybe even seek advice from a GP or any other professional who could give you support. Although you must be extremely upset try not to get emotional about things as you need to have clear thinking now to make decisions and need to be calm and strong for your daughter in order to advocate for her. As others have said i think you only need to deregister her if you are sure about homeschooling and just state to your ex that its better for her mental health and she cant learn if shes unhappy. Good luck x

I'm so sorry to hear that, so sorry to know at this age kids can act so badly to each other. I want also to advise you to involve your daughter in extracurricular activities so that she can gain her confidence and boost her literacy skills which will help her a lot to get through this difficult time. They are a lot of online courses and I can give you a little help on that if you like so!

Thank you everyone for the advice and info I finally got him to consent on the agreement that we look for a house transfer to somewhere she will be happier etc so I've done so knowing it could take a while but would probably be better for the whole family anyway, we are just awaiting final checks being done but am teaching her at home as it stands just now with the school being aware aswell. Anyone that has offered help in anyway thank you, it is very much appreciated x