Hi everyone
It is ages (ie years) since I've posted on here - but I need help.
My eldest daughter, who is GCSE year is a bright kid - but this hasn't always been picked up by teachers. I know that in the long run, GCSE's don't matter - I've never been asked for mine - but they matter to my daughter, which is why I'm worried.
She is basically predicted 7s/8s in everything. Except maths, where she was predicted a 7, but over lockdown got moved to a 5. The same week as she was told this in October, she attempted suicide. At her request, we got in a tutor - who says she is currently working at a 7/8 - but the school is refusing to budge, because she apparently did really badly in the October assessment. She is currently getting 85-100% in all her assessments at school (she's in top set) more than some of the people in the set predicted 9s.
We have had involvement from CAHMS (mental health services after her suicide attempt), who think that an ADHD diagnosis is likely, (which totally makes sense to us), but this won't come in, in time for teacher assessed grades.
What can we do? Are there reasonable adjustments we could ask the school to make for dyslexia/ADHD? It seems that much of the assessment is done by the amount of online work they engaged with over lockdown, which she just couldn't get into and did stuff on paper instead... but they are refusing to accept the past papers she's been doing at home. Does anyone have experience of appealing grades? Or any advice? The school says it is too late to assess her for dyslexia, it will have to wait for college) and there is no school counsellor... I feel like I'm floundering. The school seem to think that 7s/8s are good enough (and the 5 in maths is fine as her SATS age 11 were average) - but I think she is a bright kid doing badly as opposed to an average kid doing well. I'm really aware that this sounds like I'm a totally pushy mum - but my son who is 2 years below is currently predicted 3s - and isn't academically bright (but has lots of other skills). I'm just terrified if she doesn't get the grades she is hoping for that it will spark her off again...
So any advice on reasonable adjustments that I should ask for/how I should handle school/how to appeal would be amazing.
Thank you ... (and also just to be clear we've said to her we don't mind at all what she gets and I haven't pushed her at all, so the pressure isn't coming from us...)
Sorry for the ramble.
Thanks
C