Putting more time in expected

[Lentils]

My dd goes to a nursery that is in a Sure Start area, though we are not a sure start family. I have tried to volunteer for a lot of things even though I have a baby, and my dh tried to be a governor, but it never seems enough. I often feel that the parents who are deemed "middle class" have a lot more expectations placed on them, and if you don't step up to them, you get attitude that you don't care etc. I had to take a PT job recently so had to cut back a lot of my volunteer work, and now I am asked all the time when I am going to come back to do xyz. I told them my situation, but it seems to fall on deaf ears. Anyone else experience this?

lentils I didn't tbh. or maybe I was just oblivious to it. I don't see why you should be expected to do so much more because you are middle class. (mind you being a foreigner all these issues around class pass me by).
surely you volunteer if you want to and if and where you can. having more money than someone else would not necessary mean you have got more time. be proud for what you've done, you should be thanked not made to feel guilty for not doing more.
just do what you can and want IMO, and ignore all the rest.
(sorry if I sound harsh but I am well fed up today with doing everything for everyone else and being asked for more rather than thanked!!)

It's probably nothing to do with you being middle class and more to do with you showing willing. It's difficult a lot of times to get people who will volunteer for things so if someone does volunteer they are usually looked to and asked first in the hope that they might be happy to help out again.
If you have the time to do it, then do and if you don't have the time then don't. But as you've helped in the past you will probably still be asked in the future.

I am a congential volunteer and since having children I have had to be much more strict about what I offer to do. It helped me to draw up my own personal list of priorities. If someone asks me to do something that doesn't fit in with those priorities, the answer is "no" (even if it would be fun!).

People do seem more accepting if I say "sorry, I'm having to prioritise my time more these days and that doesn't fit in with all the other things I have on my plate."

And then feel good about what you DO do, not guilty about what you don't. None of us can do everything.