Was this an error of judgment?

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So I have 2 dds who are on role at a school. One is currently receiving outreach tuition from a hospital school due to general anxiety and school anxiety but is still on role.
Yesterday the non hospital school child received a pack of treats from school but the other one did not.

Was this an error of judgement ?

Are they in the same year/class?
Sounds like a communication fail to me, like sending nice surprises is the kind of lovely idea a teacher would have, but if classmates have siblings in school and they don't communicate the plan to those other classes teachers this would happen.
Can you email the school and enquire if the other DD might get similar and that it's caused upset (if it has) then you can manage her expectations. You can acknowledge it was a lovely gesture in the same message.

What do you mean on role? If the other child isn't actually attending or engaged in home learning via the school then it doesn't surprise me they didn't give something to that child. Is that the situation. I've never heard of hospital school so I'm not familiar with how this works.

Kids don't have to get the exact same things at the same time all the time. It's a really good lesson to learn early.

It is probably something linked to home learning which is why she didn’t receive it. I haven’t mentioned it but she knows as all her friends received them.
I guess it is just another reminder that kids who struggle at school are often forgotten about. It was the same last lockdown.
Hospital School or Medical Needs Tuition is where a child stays on role at the school but the LA provides a tutor.
We received other home school correspondence for both children but not this.

I think op means enrolled not on role.

It’s probably an error that one child is seen via zoom etc and the other child, sadly, isn’t. As DC still identifies with the school it’s a great shame but an inevitable consequence I think. I hope school gets back to normal for everyone and I hope your DC can get back to school. I’m a bit surprised schools have sent round treats anyway. Perhaps the hospital school would do the same? Then they are equal. Maybe suggest it?

Depends on the reason for the treats provision.

The teacher may have provided it for a class, for a subject, as a prize or reward for something. Parents also provide sweets and party bags throughout the year, some classes get several and some none.

I work in an Education Health team teaching students like your daughter.

I'm sorry to say that her experience is not an unusual one. I would mention it to the school if you are comfortable doing so; not in a complaining way but to point out that it's really important that they keep her feeling involved and valued if she is to successfully reintegrate back into school at some point. From experience it's small things like this that really make a difference.

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I work in an Education Health team teaching students like your daughter.

I'm sorry to say that her experience is not an unusual one. I would mention it to the school if you are comfortable doing so; not in a complaining way but to point out that it's really important that they keep her feeling involved and valued if she is to successfully reintegrate back into school at some point. From experience it's small things like this that really make a difference.

Agree with this. IME school staff often have little understanding or empathy for children like your DD, and often it is out of sight out of mind when it comes to things like this. Which can inadvertently make them feel not included, and can exacerbate any anxiety around school. I think you should kindly point out their omission.

I think this is ok really. I’m sorry your dd is struggling but I think it must be really hard to be the sibling of a struggling child and to have something just for her must be really nice. Hope things improve for your family soon.