In a right tizzy about starting school ... me that is, not DS!!

[Ghosty]

In 4.5 weeks time my DS will turn 5. On his birthday he will start school (that is the way they do it here in NZ) ... and I am a wreck.
He is really excited about it, I know he will thrive, he is bright and raring to go ...
So, why can't I stop crying about it???
Soppy old bag
G xxx

Because it's the beginning of a new phase in his life, and therefore in yours. It's perfectly normal to have ambiguous feelings about lifestage transitions.

That's the psychobabble bit - here's a HUG! Just get yourself some waterproof mascara and lash it on!

Because like all of us we want to hold our babies' hands forever. Am sure it will get better

Thanks Caligula ....
I am dreading the first day. We had a visit last week and the teacher made a point of saying that we must say our goodbyes before the bell goes on the first day as she doesn't have time for blubbing mums ... and with that I started to well up!! She looked at me and said, "Oh, dear ... I can see I'll have to get some more tissues in time for your DS's first day!!" ... she said it really nicely which made it worse!

Oh it's horrible Try and be stoical and don't let him see if you're upset.

My tip: don't go home, go out somewhere after you have dropped him off and do a bit of retail therapy (keep checking your mobile phone in an obsessive manner just in case)

I was OK days 1-3 when ds1 started school: I went out, met a friend for coffee, shopped etc. Day 4 I went home - found myself in an echoingly quiet empty house - and sobbed myself silly. Struck me then that this was it, for ever, and that my days of just me and ds1, together all the time, were over Oh Lord, I'll start myself off now and he's been there four years now!

It does get easier - but you will miss him like crazy at first. Keep busy! At least you have another one to keep you occupied, I was pregnant with ds2 when ds1 started school and I was quite lonely.

Good luck xx