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Aaaaaaaarrghh. My child has been sent home from school YET AGAIN. I have had to come home from work and of course, she's FINE. I'm tempted to write a letter to the school asking them not to send her back so quickly....

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foxinsocks · 31/10/2007 11:56

but I suppose, I can see it from the teacher's perspective.

She has no temperature. She has, what looks like to me, a heat rash. And err that's it. Their classrooms are unbelievably hot. They did tell me that they are trying to leave windows and doors open to cool them down. She has very thick hair and has always had a tendency to over heat.

But I am in a new job, only in about the second month of it and already, between the two of them, they've had about a whole week off school (validly so because they were ill).

Dd's teacher, who doesn't see eye to eye with me, said 'ooh she needs to be checked out by a doctor'. I said 'she's not ill, she's got a rash that will probably go away the minute she steps out into the playground' and she said 'well, we have to be careful with rashes'.

Well YES, with rashes that don't blanch and rashes when a child is obviously ill but rashes (and honestly, you can hardly see it - they had to position her right under a light to show me where it was) when a child is sitting in maths, answering questions, laughing with her mate, in an obviously overheated classroom arrrghhhhhhhhhh

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foxinsocks · 31/10/2007 11:58

and I KNOW I'm being unreasonable and should stop being curmudgeonly and enjoy the day cuddling her on the couch.

I KNOW!

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dooley1 · 31/10/2007 11:59

can't dh/dp collect her sometimes?

SmartArseCoveredinCobwebs · 31/10/2007 12:01

I know how you feel though, Foxy. DD1's school is the same. She was sent home because she told the teacher she had a sore throat. Teacher sent to the nurse who rang me. Twas only a blardy sore throat! Even she thought it was absurd and was disappointed because she missed DT as a result.

Do you work far from school? Takes me an hour to get home, unfortunately.

mylittleponey · 31/10/2007 12:01

At least they check on these things & call you. My dd was injured at school last year & they didn't even tell me or call me. Ended up taking her to a&e in the evening - luckily she was ok (head injury) but I was so worried.

Kewcumber · 31/10/2007 12:02

have you tried poking said teacher in the eye everytime you are called? Would at least make her think twice...

foxinsocks · 31/10/2007 12:04

lol

Yes, I'm 90 minutes away. Had just sat down with my coffee and checked my emails grrrr!

dh actually collects/takes time off to sort them out far more often than I do!

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foxinsocks · 31/10/2007 12:05

You know, in my day , I'm sure we had to blardy well sit in the sick room or whatever it was till the end of the day, no matter what.

I don't recall my mum or dad being called once.

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SmartArseCoveredinCobwebs · 31/10/2007 12:05

90 minutes! Bloody hell, that's one hell of a commute!

foxinsocks · 31/10/2007 12:10

that's door to door.

It doesn't always take that long if buses/trains arrive when they are supposed to (i.e. when I want them to!). Quickest I can do it in is 1 hour if absolutely everything is working well and I arrive at the train station as a train arrives!

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spookyspice · 31/10/2007 12:11

I was called to DS nursery to take a splinter out of his finger!

foxinsocks · 31/10/2007 12:15

NO!

was it a huge one?

(sorry to hear about your dd, mylittle - I hope she's OK now)

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dooley1 · 31/10/2007 12:18

oh yes, we had to go to the nurse and were given the biggest tablets you have ever seen if we complained of a headache

foxinsocks · 31/10/2007 12:22

lolol

that is so true. And everyone was frightened of the nurse. She was scary and knew a mile off if you were trying to pull a fast one.

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dooley1 · 31/10/2007 12:24

I once cried off PE with a sore neck
she sprayed me with this really bad smelling stuff and everyone kept out of my way for the rest of the day
it was so not worth it

irises · 31/10/2007 12:25

My ds's school used to be forever phoning me at work because he had a nosebleed (ffs!). Eventually one day they phoned because he had hay fever and I said, I'm sorry but I'm preparing for a trial tomorrow and you're just going to have to deal with it.

Sounds v. unmummyish I know, but by the time I'd got there (1 hour away) it would only be 30 mins before chucking out time.

They can be incredibly poncy ime.

foxinsocks · 31/10/2007 12:29

lol

we used to tell the nurse we had our periods and couldn't possibly do swimming (just to get out of it - doing swimming in winter was so unpleasant!) but she soon cottoned on and handed out some tampons with an explanatory note on how to use them. . Very wily she was.

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morningpaper · 31/10/2007 12:29

lol yes, why don't they have sick rooms any more?

an hour in there and you were banging on the door to be let out

staring at the 1980s Saachi poster of the fly vomiting on your dinner

no thanks

foxinsocks · 31/10/2007 12:32

it's annoying isn't it

I haven't told you the back story, but dd has a habit of getting sent home from school (we had her sent home with hayfever this Spring too, and she really wasn't that bad with it) - she also cottoned on that if she told them she thought she was going to be sick, they'd call me or dh straight away so in one term of school, she managed to get sent home about 6 times! It's not like she's unhappy there, I think she just enjoyed being crafty.

But she's stopped doing that now!

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MrsWobble · 31/10/2007 12:37

my dd has also developed a habit of telling the teaching assistants that she's feeling sick. so far they haven't sent her home although they have suggested to my nanny at pick up time that she should be kept off if she's not well - we know that and we also know she's not ill.

I had a difficult meeting at work last week - so dd advised me to "phone work with my sick voice" and tell them I was too ill to come in - I asked her if that was the voice she used for the teaching assistants and she laughed.

it does seem to have stopped now though.

foxinsocks · 31/10/2007 12:37

lol I remember that poster

that and the one with the pregnant bloke!

they must have been from the Department of Health or something.

And there was a bed in the sick room - with a sheet and an army style blanket (really itchy) and a bowl in case you were sick. It was like a cell!

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saadia · 31/10/2007 13:55

I've just been to collect ds from school. They called and said he'd been hurt and could I come in, so I asked if I should bring him home and they said "well he's really upset and wants to see you so when you come you can decide what to do" . So I brought him home - seemed odd to call me in just so he could see me.

Blandmum · 31/10/2007 14:10

Why no sick rooms?

No money, particularly in smaller schools and especially in Primary/ infants.

You'd have to have an adult in the room, or on call to supervise for 100% of the time that a child was in the sick room (imagine how you'd feel if your child wasn't supervised and took a turn for the worse)

Schools don't have the spare cash for an adult to be paid to sit there.

We are lucky, and have a large enough school that the sick room is in almost constant use! So we have a school nurse too, but that is just us being lucky.

also we have go go on what the kids tells us, 'Miss I feel ill' means you have to rake them seriously, however minor.....but I did once draw the line at letting a 14 year old go to the nurses room because she split a nail!

claricebeansmum · 31/10/2007 14:16

My DS & DD schools are completely opposite to each other.

DS school calls at the merest sneeze or bump. The local hospital are pissed off at the number of kids from DS school that are sent down to them after a fall in the playground. Kids are forever being picked up.

DD school has had to introduce a new system when going to the sick room becuase it is so lovely - beds with cosy duvets and the nicest school nurse in the world. My DD has told the nurse that she is too ill to be in the classroom but no ill enought to go home and not to call her mummy! .

foxinsocks · 31/10/2007 14:23

lol, isn't it funny how they pick up on things like that so quickly (re the nice sick room!).

ANd honestly, a split nail, you'd think at 14 she could come up with a better excuse!

Mine are at a large primary so they have a school nurse but I'm not sure she's full time (she's definitely there a fair bit). Anyway, she's just called (she's lovely) as she was concerned dd might have had an allergic reaction to something (which given her history is probably a valid concern!).

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MaureenMLove · 31/10/2007 14:36

My dd spent so much time coming home 'ill' that I'd had enough and told her that she could only come home if she was bleedin from her eyes! One afternoon, the teacher took me aside and said, 'she really hasn't been the full ticket today, but she was very brave and wouldn't let me call you!'

She was 10 at the time and clearly she wasn't that bad, because she managed to stay, despite the odds!