screaming

[rosalina]

Don´t you ever scream to your children, don´t you ever feel you are the worst mum in the world because you loose your temper and say things you sholdn´t ever say to them??

Yes I scream and lose my temper more than I'd like to. But the fact that you realise that perhaps you shouldn't have screamed or lost your temper means that you are normal. It really becomes a problem when you're NOT thinking it's wrong, or when it is your only course of action or you get violent with it. You won't be on your own in this rosalina, tell us more about your situation.

3 kids alone, full time job, a ds with some learning disabilities and needing much help with homework...Sometimes it´s so hard I say awfull things to them and yrt, I love them more than life.

You've got your hands full, and you're bound to lose it at times. So don't feel guilty. You're doing the right thing asking how other people cope. For me, sometimes it's as simple as counting to 10 ( or 20!) Other times, it's reminding myself that I'm that adult. Other times, like you I just lose it. Really sorry, but have to go now - computer in our bedroom and DH has to be up early in the morning. I hope someone comes along soon to help you, if not, will look out for you tomorrow. Not that I've got the answers!

Thaks lilospell. G night.

How are you doing today Rosalina? I expect you're at work. Am going away for a couple of days so won't be on line til we're back. Am sure you'll get lots of support from others tho.

I don't have the challenges you face, rosalina, but i certainly do sometimes lose my temper and shout. And yes I have said things I wish I hadn't.

I'm human. I try and apologise and explain why I felt the way I did. Children are very forgiving, in my experience.

I feel better today, you do have right Eliza2, I am human and sometimes a very tired woman...Children have forgotten me by now, I now must forgive myself. Too many pressure, and too many working hours I´m affraid. I wish I haven´t said those things, I´ll try not to do the same again, must control myself better next time I will be too tired. I think.

Not forgotten, forgiven...sorry...english isn´t my first language...

I agree, I 'only' have 2 dc and dh (altho he is away a lot) but istill lose my temper. I do make sure I apologise and I hope that teaches them that everyone is human and sometimes it is hard not to lose your temper, but if you do an unreasonably upset someone you should say sorry.

Not sure it is working with dd but ds seems to have the message