Am i an insensitive mum?

[childmindersam]

Ok i did post on another thread but its been playing on my mind.

My ds was 4 at end of july and started full time school in september. He attends 9-3 every day and seems to enjoy it although by thursday he does get tired and tends to sulk alot. Had parents evening last night nad his teacher said she thought although he was very intellectual and was kkeping up with the group in that respect she thought he was having difficulty with the pace of the day and said dhe might like him to have a few afternoons at home per week. Im not sure how this would help. He certainly wouldnt sleep and resting would be difficult as im a childminder and have 2 other children at home under 3! He already goes to bed at 6pm every night and sleeps till 7am. What should i do? Im worried that by letting him stay home he will be picked on by other children and also will start playing on it and want to be home all the time!

HELP

I don't know if it's any help but my ds1 (4 in June) is also the only one not attending school full-time yet. He hasn't been picked on or laughed at. When he's home in the afternoon on a half-da it gives him a chance to just wind down a bit. He doesn't nap but does seem less exhausted.

i suppose i dont really understand why he is tired. I know he is on the go alot more now but he did attend nursery 7.30 - 6pm until june this year when i gave up work. Hes getting lots of sleep. i just dont want him to think that if hes silly at school then he can stay home!

That may be completely different then. Ds1 was only used to being at pre-school in the mornings.

ok , My ds had a lovely day at school yesterday and was brilliant but today apparently he has been really tired!
Been saying NO alot and generally sulking and not doing as he is told. What do i do? He had 13 hours sleep last night and was still a nightmare at school. Now he is saying he doesnt want to go to school and wants to stay at home so have told him if he stays home he will have to have a sleep tomorrow in the day which he says he doesnt want to do? HELP

Your son's teacher will have seen this before and as she sees how your son is coping on a day to day basis, I think I would be inclined to take her advice. Even if he doesn't nap, being at home will be less tiring for him than being at achool - it certainly is that way for my daughter, although she's only at nursery at the moment. Why don't you give it a go for a week or two, and see if there's any improvement?

mmine was young when he wernt and was always exhausted and that was from half aday

I think ask school if he can do mornings till xmas - I dont see why on earth he would eb picked on

u are probably right! im just so worried that his behaviour is because he now realises he can blame being tired! He can be obnoxious first thing in the morning after 13 hours sleep not just in the afternoon! maybe will pick him up early tomorrow!

check with school forst
gett he teacher to tell him he is doing half days so he can feel fresher

Even though your ds went to nursery, it is different going to school. When they are so young, they get mentally tired as well as physically.
My ds2 was just 4 when he started and it took until after christmas for him to be able to cope with it, and even now he is 8 towards the end of term and then when he goes back, he is tired and takes a while to settle in.

Thanks for all the advice! My dh and i are gonna go up the school and have a chat with teacher tomorrow! We want to avoid the half day route mainly because we think it will not help him (just because my house is mad during the dya and he wont get any rest). We are hoping there is an alternative. thanks again!

cms I think he will get rest during the day.
just beiong at home with his toysa adn being able to veg out imo
maybe you dont want him there ?"!!;) bet you he will be no hassle