HOMEWORK YR3

[mrsforgetful]

We have a parents evening appointment coming up on monday and the main issue i have with my 7yr old is the ammount of homework he gets and the way it is set.

EVERY day he has to do SPELLINGS (8 words he has to SAY,COVER & WRITE)

Then in addition EVERY day he has to EITHER....

READ his school reading book AND WRITE a sentance about what he has read AND then DRAW a picture.
OR
Do some other special homework which they have been set VERBALLY....NOTHING is written down (this will be relavent to something they have done that day)

So.......this is 5 days a week....plus once over the weekend.

And also as i mentioned sometimes the homework is set verbally.....and when he comes home i have to ask him what homework he has been set- he can get very stressed as he doesn't always remember.

IF THE HOMEWORK ISN'T DONE....the next day they have to sit in the class at lunchtime to do it.

I'd be interested to know how this compares.....and having raised this 'gently' via the link book to the teacher and also sometimes i write in there that he has NOT done the homework WITH MY PERMISSION.....do you think it is right that he is made to do the missed homework in his playtime?

ADDITIONALLY.....HE IS BEING ASSESSED FOR ASPERGER'S SYNDROME/DYSPRAXIA.....and as you may know ROUITINES are important (so he finds missing playtime harder than some) and being VERBALLY told homework & expected to remember is stressful at least- and impossible at worst.(basically with my eldest Asperger's son i am encouraged to write things down to help him...he's yr6....yet with my yr3 son he is expected to be so independant.....as he was even told by the teacher when he asked if he could have it written down!

HELP please as i have been down this 'rocky road' before and am trying to remain objective.

So please ANYONE SN....NT ....... let me know!

P.s....with 3 boys- 5,7 & 10.... with AUTISM blended in....Homework is a hard thing for me to organise...so i feel in some ways this is a difficult area for ME....let alone them!(my 5 year old ended up doing his BEFORE school TODAY...as last night i had to concentrate on the 7yr old so much.)

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My DD (year 3) gets reading every night but NO spellings each week (which I think is appalling so we do our own, we just use DsD's) She gets a piece of literacy and a piece of Maths each Monday to complete for Friday (which is quite nice)
DsD (year 3 private) gets 30 mins maths and 30 mins English every night and 16 spellings each week.

My son is expected to read each night (Mon - Fri) for about 10 mins, on Thursday they receive a list of eight words to learn for a spelling test the following Monday, and, in addition, they have some practical homework and a piece of either literacy/numeracy homework received on Thursday to be handed in the following Monday. I find this fine for yr 3 and am totally amazed at your sons' treatment.

My Yr 3 child gets numeracy, literacy and spelling every week. She gets a week to do each thing - and is absolutely pathetic at getting it done (as is her mother at chivvying her along). She also reads every day, but that's not a problem for us.

Thanks to you all......yes we do have a dedicated HOMEWORK BOOK..... and the teacher has stuck a letter in the front cover ....stating that homework will NOT be written down etc.....and reassuring us that this encourages independance....

The aspergers is a tricky one as he has yet to have a firm diagnosis.

i just feel awkward as i moved all 3 of my boys to this school in April- and i know i cannot keep running when the going gets tough...but i hate confrontations

My daughter is also in yr 3. So far we have almost had the opposite problem in that very little homework has been set and when it has it hasn't been checked. But apparently this is just how this particular teacher operates. I would have expected spellings once a week with a test at the end of the week and a new reading book each week. I am not bothered about the reading though because my daughter is fairly fluent at that. It must be odd for the kids though if they are asked to find out about something, for example and then she never follows up on it. I also have parents evening this week coming so I can bring it up there (I hope I'm not going to be marked as a troublemaker as I am also raising issues about the swimming lessons!) I know that in other schools in this area though the parents themselves are struggling to find time to do all the homework that their kids in yr 3 have been set.

Regarding setting the homework verbally...it sounds as if lots of schools expect the kids to become more responsible straightway when they start juniors. My daughter has a homework diary and book but one day she came out in tears as she had not enough time to write down the homework as they also had to finish a piece of work before assembly. The teacher told her she would have to come back in the classroom after assembly instead of going straight home (she didn't!). I borrowed another girls diary over the weekend to find out what they had to do.

Then we had a harvest assembly a few weeks ago and each child brought in a small item to make up hampers for old people. I found our contribution still in the schoolbag a day later - she said the teacher never asked for them.

I know they have to become more responsible eventually but it won't happen overnight.

I hope you can get things sorted at your parents evening - it seems ridiculous to have a policy of only setting the homework verbally if it means it doesn't get done, not to mention that it upsets your son.

thankyou pabla.....what i have decided to do is tell her just what else i have to do with Leigh after school.....given that we get home at 3.45 and he needs to be in bed by 8....that leaves 4 and a quarter hours .

Basically as he is 'probably asperger's' he usually comes home with loads of 'baggage'.....that is incidents or converations etc that happened at school which cause him great anxiety etc and i need to deal with all that first before he could possibly contemplate homework- so typically that takes till at least 4.30....then i feel he needs some recreation...whilst i cook tea. then i serve tea and due to his 'mealtime problems' he can take anything from 30- 60 mins to eat a meal.....so usually its 6.30 before he is 'ready' to do homework......so this is when we tend to do it....

This weekend for example he had to ......

write 6 sentances about Kenya with 2 illustrations (this is their topic in class at the mo)Some of the class had to do 10 sentances with 3 illustrations

And...... his 8 spellings

AND..... re-write a sentance to include an Adjective and a word like 'So,suddenly,because or incase)

My 10yr old has no homework over the weekend (ofcourse reading....but that's accepted as a daily homework)

My 5 yr old had to read his book- copy a sentance and draw a picture.
AND I had to tell him the story of red riding hood without a book.....and that is the bit i forgot to do.