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Old Bag Reception Teacher

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acer · 12/10/2004 16:44

Just picked up my boys from school, my youngest ds is in reception, old bag just told me she had to tell him to stop pushing - again! Says he shows no remorse (what sort of word is that to use) I said he certainly does when told off and asked if he had hurt this boy, she said no but that he shows no remorse (theres that word again) when told off, I said he does get embarrased and that I will speak to him. She says it just him - no-one else behaves like that (all angels!) I asked if it has happened alot, she said no. I know that my ds is no angel but can't believe he would push this other child for no reason, its always one of two children, when I asked him about it he says that this boy was pushing him in the cloakroom and so he pushed him back on his way back to the classroom and that the teacher didn't see what happened in the cloakroom. He is quite shy and gets very embarrased so I know he wouldn't say anything. I think its a case of threes a crowd, but when I suggested this to his teacher she just ignored me. My ds complained last week twice that these two boys had pushed him and that he had done as I asked and had told the teachers instead of pushing back, now I wish I had told his class teacher this. Am I making too much of this, maybe boys are just being boys, when I tell him to leave them alone and play with someone else he just says that they are his best friends!!
I have got to see this woman at parents evening and I just have afeeling that she just isn't that fond of my ds or of me, so I'm dreading saying something I may regret.

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SoupDragon · 12/10/2004 16:50

Say you had a word with him, that these boys were pushing him in the cloakroom so he pushed back and that he now understands he mustn't push.

TBH, it sounds like "rough play" rather than malicious - unless one of them gets pushed into a wall or a sharp corner. DS1 (5) regularly wrestles with his "best friend in the whole wide world" in football practise.

acer · 12/10/2004 16:53

Thanks for the reply, Yes I think it is just rough play and that she has no idea about boys. He is no angel but he is not a nasty child he spent a year at the school nursery and I can honestly say that they never spoke to me once about his behavour and he was with these two boys in there too.

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acer · 12/10/2004 16:55

I can't seem to help getting so upset about it, every day I get myself in a state about picking him up, its silly, I never feel like this about picking up my eldest.

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SoupDragon · 12/10/2004 16:57

I'm constantly trying to teach DSs that they shouldn't push/hit back but Dh keeps telling them that's what they should do. My reasoning being that it's generally the last person who pushes who gets told off!

TBH, I've found the relationship between reception teachers and the children and nursery staff and the children is completely different. They are less "mothering" for want of a better word. From my knowledgeable standpoint of having one child now in year 1!

SoupDragon · 12/10/2004 16:58

I'm expecting more things like you mention to happen with DS2 as he's a more...er... physical child than DS1. Speaking of which, best go and fetch him from nursery!!

acer · 12/10/2004 17:00

Your right, she says that they must be left to come in on there own, she wants them to be independant, the other reception teacher doesn't enforce this and they were not encouraged to be that independant in nursery.

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hmb · 12/10/2004 17:06

SD you might be pleasantly surprised. I was expecting all manner of troubles with ds as he is also what my dear old Ma would have called a 'real boy'. His reception teacher is so good with him. She is very firm and quite strict, they all know the rules and what is expected of them. She is also great fun and is great at rewarding good behaviour and gives lots of hugs and cuddles. She is just what my ott lad needs and he has amazed and delighted me by taking to reception like a duck to water.

acer · 12/10/2004 17:08

My ds reception teacher just isn't cuddly, not that he would want to cuddle her, she is very old fashioned in her teaching ways. Maybe I am being too sensative.

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firestorm · 12/10/2004 19:47

acer, you have my sympathies. my dd (now in year 1) had a hellish reception year. tbh her teacher was a control freak & a complete bitch, not the type of person you would expect to be teaching reception at all. im disappointed that my dds first experience of school was so bad because of this nasty woman. luckily for dd her teacher this year couldnt be more different, she is cuddly & mumsy & fills dd with confidence. im amazed at how much progress shes made in the few weeks theyve been back, we really couldnt be happier this year.
i hope that this turns out to be a one off for you & your son enjoys his reception year, its so important that they do.

paolosgirl · 12/10/2004 19:58

Do we have the same teacher? Dd's and I fell out big time in week 2 of reception because I DARED to write her a note asking her to explain the homework. She actually got the head teacher involved, and when I went to speak to the teacher about it all, she launched into a tirade about my daughter being a poor listener and not putting her shoes on in time. FFS!!! I am boycotting the parents night - DH is going, he will be a lot less upset by what the silly moo has to say and will stand his ground. I'd probably just cry and she has nothing to say that I want to hear. Where do they get these women from??? Ds goes to another school and they are fab.

jellyhead · 12/10/2004 20:01

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sis · 12/10/2004 20:12

acer, hopefully, this sort of thing won't happen again but if it does, maybe you will be better prepared - I know I would have been very apologetic to the teacher and then cross with myself afterwards for not standing up for my son and myself! If she mentions his so called lack of remorse - maybe you could ask her what she would expect in these circumstances - it could be that she simply wants to hear the word sorry. If this is the case, perhaps you could explain to your son what sort of behaviour his teacher expects.

I hope things improve for you and yourson with this teacher.

tigermoth · 12/10/2004 23:41

Reminds me of the year 1 teacher who announched that my then 5 year old ds1 had no work ethic

I think remorse is an unfortunate choice of word - it would annoy me too. However it could be no more than a badly expressed complaint said at an off moment. As this is the first parent's evening of the school year, in your shoes, I'd go along prepared to be nice to this teacher and assume she likes you and your ds. Perhaps you just got off on the wrong footing? here's hoping anyway - it's a long time till next July after all.

acer · 14/10/2004 21:59

Thanks for all the replies and support, just got back from parents evening. God I am livid she spent all of 30seconds saying how brilliant he is at his work and then slagged him off about knocking another childs bricks over for no apparent reason, I spoke to him he said yes he did it but it was a game and tat he said he was sorry, I said he wouldn't like it if someone did that to him, I think he got the message. What really annoyed me is that she spoke to my husband the whole time we were in there, only looking at me when I spoke. OLD BAG!!!!!!!!

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Batters · 15/10/2004 08:17

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firestorm · 15/10/2004 10:58

hi acer, try not to let her wind you up too much (easier said than done i know) at my first parent teacher meeting my dds reception teacher actually suggested that dd may need counselling because she had a little trouble separating from me in the mornings (the problem was caused by the teachers bad managment of a situation & her attitude made things deterorate further) i could of punched the bitch, how dare she? thankfully dd did settle eventually & was unaware of my feelings towards her teacher. luckily for us year one is a completely different story, dds new teacher is lovely & im amazed at how she`s progressed in such a short space of time
as long as your son is happy & unaware of any conflict the only answer is to grit your teeth & be as pleasant as you can (for your sons sake)remember that in 9 months time he will leave that class forever.

acer · 15/10/2004 11:27

Thanks Batters & Firestorm you are right as long as my ds is happy, and I am sure he is, then I am going to try my best to bite my tongue, and then come July I will tell her exactly what I think of her

I just never realised how hard it could be....

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