Confused -- 5th Sep born child admission in jan?

[everfor007]

My daughter is born on 5th Sep 17 and my first son born 30Aug16. Due to one year difference my daughter has copied everything from his elder brother interms of behaviour, emotions and learning. Due to same height, almost everybody says they are twins and feel my daughter is elder becoz much advanced in handling the situations and behaviour.

My son got his reception admission on 4th year(this year from sept) but for my daughter due to 31-Aug school admission cutover and my daughter j ust 5days ahead and they'll take her in reception on 5th year only i.e. sep 2022. Feeling this 2 years education gap among brother and sister will create a difference.

is there way to join her in Jan 2022 term rather than sept 2022? is it possible convey to school admission board she's mature enough and physical capable to start the school in 4th year itself? Kindly advise how to request this and any further option available?

Does independent school has same school admission policy ?

State school - categorically cannot. So pay for private they may be more flexible.

Tbh though it would be better to ask if you son could start school a year later and your daughter the normal time. State schools are obliged to consider this given how very very young he is for his year.

My friend begged school to take her September born daughter a year early. As she had been in the nursery joined to the school since the term after turning 3, she was friends with lots of the children in the year above her. School could not and would not let her start reception early so she did another year in the nursery.

For this reason we found a private school for Feb born DD with a class called pre-reception with classrooms opposite the reception and Y1 rooms. We had always intended to move her to state for reception but she stayed put as she was thriving and we worried she’d find she was repeating things and get frustrated if we moved her. In hindsight repeating is no bad thing but we did what we felt was right at the time. So careful if you do choose private for a year, it might end up costing you a fortune! We were able to use the EY finding to offset fees.

As others have said, it is very unlikely you would be able to persuade a state school to take your daughter a year early. You stand a better chance of persuading a school to start your son a year late, although that may be difficult this late in the process. You definitely have the option of delaying his entry until later in the year. He could start at the beginning of the summer term in 2021 rather than in September.

thanks for reply. In related to private paid option, if I managed to put her in private independent school of 4th year instead of 5th year, what happens in later when she moves from primary to secondary into different school, at that time they won't bother of this 31st Aug DOB cutover?

In Wales we do staggered state nursery starts, so children start school nursery in the term after they're 3. I've always liked this aspect of the system here but I can't see there being any leniency on reception admissions.

@everfor007 I am confused by your question, do you mean aged 4 or Year 4 (when they are 8 or 9)? We chose not to have our child out of her usual year group, if we had started her in pre-reception in the private school she would have gone into either reception at the private school or reception at the state school, there was no leap frogging of years. It was one of the main reasons we kept her at the private school as they could be more flexible and for some subjects focused on ability rather than age.

In the private school our daughter attended she joined in with the maths class of the year above and some were 18 months older than her (her being Feb born), but the majority of her time was spent with her age group which was important to us.

I do know some who move from small private schools where they were put up a year but in most instances they either repeat Year 6 in the primary to then rejoin the 'proper' cohort or miss out Year 6 and join Year 7 at senior school. Most children however bright may not be suited to the different emotional and physical maturity of being out of step with their peer group. By the time you are 22 it seems most people catch up with each other and a year here or there isn't a major thing but it does seem so at age 6 or 7.

It is highly unlikely any school would allow her to join a year early

You would potentially have more luck keeping your son back a year so there is still a year difference.

Why on earth would you want her to start school so early. Secondary school may also be bothered.

DH sister was put forward a year - it caused a whole lot of issues at University (not allowed to live on campus as not 18 at the cut off)

2 years school difference is not a bad thing. Ask yourself exactly why you are wanting to do this? Or indeed why she is showing more maturity than any other September born child

Definitely don't start your daughter early. She will have a huge advantage being the oldest in the year. I'd defer your son's place for a year too.

Would you consider starting your son a year late instead? As others have suggested, this would be more likely to be agreed, and being oldest in the school year would give them both an advantage.

Feeling this 2 years education gap among brother and sister will create a difference.

But they are different! I may be wrong, but you come across as wanting your dd to be recognized as on a par or even more advanced than her brother. That would be a detrimental attitude for both your children

I think your ds will benefit from a 2 school year gap to allow him develop independently from his sister.

And your dd certainly will not be disadvantaged by starting reception in the September she turns 5.

I don't there is any justification to delay your son's start if it's only for your daughter's benefit. If you think it is better for him because he's not ready then go ahead but the decision must be on his needs alone.
If you go private to get your daughter in a year early then you will probably be in private the whole way through school. Mainstream secondaries won't take her a year early and it can cause difficulties at University age.