A level transfer

[bizzy1234]

So my daughter is part of a toxic group of friends that repeatedly blow hot and cold..
they do it regularly and more recently it has got very nasty..being yelled at, ostracised and laughed at.
School know and she tries to leave them but then they start being lovely again... she's had enough.. we've had enough..it's been happening since year 10.
We looked at a change of school for 6th form after GCSEs but was enticed back with a scholarship and a read suit hat the girls would all grow up in 6th form.
My question is has anyone experienced a child move school and A levels after one term..
She has been to see a local college and they say they can accommodate her but she will have to work harder than ever and be self motivated... which I think she is..
She's anxious of staying and worried about moving where she doesn't know anyone..
She's a great kid, really good fun not a shy type but has had all her confidence knocked it's so sad for parent to see.
School have read the riot act but not much change..
should she leave for a fresh but hard start or stay and face more crap

I think she should move as it sounds miserable and would just continue

I would move if they can make it work tbh. A great school is useless if you're miserable and they sound awful.

Thank you both - I believe although moving is not going be easy on either educational or social fronts... she can't carry on - 18 more months of it would be like a prison sentence.
You have confirmed our thinking.

I think she should move. She will need to work very hard as it's likely they won't have covered exactly the same topics her school have but she sounds like a bright girl so she should be able to manage.

I think it would be more stressful to leave after a term than make a plan to start afresh somewhere new.

It sounds awful (though sadly not uncommon). We've got a similar thing with one of ours though she's in Y11 and I wish I'd moved her sooner. We're baling our for sixth form which is a pain in many ways but I can't make her stay. If your DD has already had enough then personally I'd take the hit of moving her now.

Maybe also some social activities where she is not dependent on people she knows through school or college? Could she sign up for d of e maybe, drama club or helping out somewhere so she broadens her friendship base?

Much sympathy to your dd and you op, this sounds awful - and unfortunately yes, friendship issues don't always improve once they get to 6th form (although sometimes they do!).

Another 4 terms is a lot when things are going wrong with friends - (the 5th, last, term perhaps is not a real term as they go on study leave, but that doesn't make too much difference at this stage!) Are there any 'true' friends who dd could focus on and just ditch the toxic group altogether? Very difficult at this stage I know, and often there are overlaps in friendships which mean you can't make a complete break.

What subjects is your dd doing? With subjects like English/History, if the college is doing totally different subjects/books I think maybe the switch is harder work than maths where the syllabus may not be that different - although not an expert on that, so worth discussing with the college! An alternative might be to start yr 12 again in September at the college - though I'm not sure what dd would then do for the next six months?

Thank you once again all for your helpful replies..
She has a Saturday job where she works with some great kids but info her D of E is done at school... with the girls doing it aswell.
She is studying art, engl lit and language and sociology.
They say art is fine... she will have to do eng literature instead but she has already studied one of the books. The hardest is sociology with a totally different exam board.. but they say she can catch up if we provide extra support our end... anyone know of any sociology teachers that can do Skype lessons?!
She has made the decision to move.. she believes it will be harder to stay and be constantly watching over her shoulder than to move and start a fresh.
It is a truly awful situation but I am sure moving is better for her.
Thank you once again

That's great news OP. The move from English lit and lang to lit is easier than if she had just done lit and was going to do just Lang. Most kids enjoy lit a lot more.
She sounds pretty determined and there's lots of kids that don't do very much in the first term and than knuckle down with a lot of hard work so she will be fine.

Could she not repeat the first year of A levels and start afresh? DS of a friend did this after moving schools halfway through A levels. It would be a shame if she lost out on the grades she needed for whatever she wanted to do next.

Thank you all
So.... she moved and she says it was the best thing to have done... she's catching up with the work pretty well and still got her Saturday job.
She's met some lovely kids that have welcomed her.
She hasn't experienced any hostility from anyone and says although the first week was tough and scary.... she's glad she left...
Unbelievably those girls who were so awful are still bitching about her - clearly they don't have enough going on in their petty lives.
So for anyone whose child is being bullied and despite all efforts from yourself and their school... a fresh start is a good option!
First time I've sent her off to school/college without a worry in many months!!

Oh that is such good news OP! Very pleased for you both