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too much time off sick

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bosch · 05/03/2019 22:40

I'm more of a lurker these days, but I had this issue and thought of you!

So we've have two letters from DS3 school saying he has too much time off sick. (context is ds1 and ds2 have virtually 100% attendance)

History is that in y5 and y6 DS3 had several long-lasting but unrelated illnesses/health issues - labyrinthitis, impacted constipation, indigestion, tonsillitis - three times. As well as normal coughs and colds. Each time, something that you thought he ought to get over in a week or two he was poorly for much much longer.

So now he's in secondary school and he had a couple of days off twice in the first term with tonsillitis...the second time, he was sent home by school as not well enough to attend. So end of Jan, we get the first letter from school saying his attendance was a worry. The following week they sent him from school as he was nauseous and he never got any better all week so we kept him off - for the whole week.

After half term we got a second letter from school saying his attendance was now below 92%, and that any future absences will be unauthorised unless there is appropriate medical evidence.

We went into the school and they confirmed that any further ill health absences that are unauthorised will result in the local education authority being involved. And so we need to take him to the doctors to get appropriate medical evidence. On the first day off sick. For anything that you might think is enough to keep him off school but not enough to require a visit to the gp, he now needs to be seen by the gp to satisfy the school. I'm really cross about how powerless I feel.

Employers have learnt that they can't expect unreasonable amounts of evidence for employees...they take into account the evidence from each period off sick, don't require medical evidence for a single day off sick and observe evidence of patterns (the Friday or Monday sickies...) But school requires medical evidence of anything under 90% attendance, even if the initial 10 or so days were 'justified' - because he had a prescription or at least in part the absence was based on schools own assessment that he wasn't well enough to be in school...

Anyone else got any experience of similar circumstances. Everyone I've talked to who has anything similar has a child with one longstanding chronic issue where the school say 'oh yes, that one medical issue is evidenced so we can take a pragmatic view of absences and don't need to involve the LEA'. What if your predominantly healthy and happy child doesn't thrive each time they get an illness?

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Hollowvictory · 06/03/2019 09:26

If its all tonsillitis related I'd get them removed.
8% absence is quite high! It's nearly a day e every fortnight, seems a lot?
But I don't think they can demand medical certificates

Railworker · 06/03/2019 10:11

Are you a medical professional Hollowvictory? I’m not sure that removing children’s body parts is the answer to a ridiculous attitude to illness - as the op says, her child was sent home from school having been assessed by the school themselves as being too ill to attend.
I have no suggestions, op, but I’m sorry that in addition to the worry of having an ill child, school has decided to add stress you and other parents of ill children (and quite probably the children themselves!). 💐

Hollowvictory · 06/03/2019 10:20

@Railworker Removing tonsils is only a cure for tonsillitis so it won't help with the school administration I'm afraid.

bosch · 06/03/2019 23:31

Sadly, gp confirmed ds would have to have a lot more cases of tonsillitis before nhs would take them out. Which is quite good because I also don't want him to have operation with general anaesthetic!

Thanks for sympathy. I have a feeling the school is taking a very black and white approach to the law. Await interesting conversation with gp practice next time DS is off sick and I need an appt just to get evidence that he's been to the GP...

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superram · 06/03/2019 23:35

Why did you keep him off for a week for feeling sick? He wasn’t sick-I think you may be pandering a little.

bosch · 07/03/2019 00:00

superram, i tried to get across what he's like in my opening post. Every time I think surely this time he's swinging the lead and take him back to school we end up at the gp with them saying, oh yes, this is a real thing and he needs medication and time off school to recover. And more often than not if we don't 'pander' to him as you say, he ends up more poorly.

Can it really be true that we can detect when ds1 and ds2 are poorly or not, but can't see the truth with ds3?

Sorry, not meaning to drip feed but dh works from home most of the time and so deals with the brunt of this, I'm at work four days a week. I'm pretty confident dh isn't a panderer.

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typoqueen · 08/03/2019 13:38

DD 11 has suffered ongoing tonsillitis but she goes to school with it as its not contagious, she has paracetamol before going to school and i give her 1 lot to take in school at lunch time, may seem harsh but she only gets to stay home if she is actually vomiting, if she just feels sick she goes in or she would be off more than in. Since doing this she has 100% attendance since september

IggyAce · 08/03/2019 13:53

Have you discussed with the GP why it seems to take them ages to get over illnesses? It maybe time for a blood test to rule out underlying issues.
Perhaps consider supplements to help boost immune system.

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