How can I stop worrying a little bit about this?

[moosh]

Hi ds (4) starting reception in two weeks and am worried. At nursery, he is a popular confident little boy with loads of play mates and he really enjoys being with his friends. The trouble is that he is the only boy going to this new school all his other mates are scattered in other schools but they all have another friend that will be there that they know. My little one is on his owmn, I told him, "You'll have to make new friends at school is that alright?" he sad "Yes mum thats fine" like it really doesn't bother him. But I can't help worrying that he may try and join a group of boys that know each other and he may not be accepted in that group. DYKWIM. I know it may sound stupid but I am really worried that he may not be able to make new friends, I am not showing him that I am worried but I am dreading it. Anyone with positive experience of this type of situation?

Moosh - he will be absolutely fine. At 4 their priorities are different and all it will take is some cool show on your son's part and he'll be in. My dd has just started secondary school and is not with her friends but she does know a couple of the boys. I was a bit worried but she told me on Friday a couple of girls asked her to join them at break and lunch time - so if girls can be nice to each other your son's got nothing to worry about

DS1 was in exactly this situation last year. He settled in fine, had no problems making friends and now has a "gang" of 5 or so main friends and one "best friend in the whole wide world". Some children in the class knew each other from the school nursery but this does not seem to have affected friendships at all.

HTH!

Our ds was the same, moosh, no-one from his nursery went to his reception class. And he settled in fine, just like Soupy's ds. Best of luck, it's so normal to be worrying at this time.

Ditto Soupdragon and Marina.

My ds1 is now best friends with a boy he sat next to in his first workgroup and is definitely 'in' with the gang who came up together from the pre-school.

They make friends really easily in Reception, so please don't worry.

Just been helping in a new reception class this morning and all the children at this age play together. In the group we were asking about playing with toys at home and one little boy said "I don't have any friends just my baby brother", immediately the boy next to him said "I'm your friend". They had only met last Wednesday. Please don't worry before you know it you'll have loads of children round for tea.

Thankyou everyone I feel a little bit at ease now I do forget that children are not as fickle as adults. The positive thing is that he is not a bit worried infact he is really looking forward to putting his uniform on (not the shoes though!) and making new friends. So I haven't made an issue about it, but it had been stewing away inside for some time as dh looks at me like I am mad sometimes whenever I mention my concerns. Hopefully once he starts I'll look back and wonder what all the fuss was about.

Daisy...my ds starts tomorrow and your post made me want to cry! This is all very reassuring.

It's scary for us mums when our babies start school. My 2 dd (twins) started in January and I cried the night before, now I can't remember why I was so worried. They both love school and I can go to the supermarket without having to stop half way round for the toilet