When you volunteer to help with a school outing

[lionheart]

do you expect to be put in charge of the group that actually has your child in it?

Or, do you accept that you have agreed to help with all the children and shouldn't be matched to your own?

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Our school tends to keep children separte from their parents where possible.

whatever group you're assigned to
would have thought you'd be wiuth your ds or dd tho

I think most schools put you in a seperate group.

at our school, it varied, sometimes would be the group with DS, sometimes not...i wouldn;t expect it ..you are going to help the class as a whole

My initial expectatin would be that I woudn't have had my dcs, but that has been corrected through experience.

I think our school tends to put child with their own parent.

Not to me but it obviously did to the po-faced woman in the playground who only volunteered
to spend time with her dd and was given someone else's dcs to shepherd.

I'd say it depends on your child - and on the teacher's assessment of the situation - sometimes they'd be best with their parent, sometimes without - in my case DD would have preferred me to be with her group, but would actually be better with someone else, whereas DS would probably prefer I wasn't anywhere near his school trips.....

Last seen declaring she would not ever, never offer to help again.

have had my DCs in my group on some occasions, and not on others.

LOL !!! surely part of the reason to send DCs to school is to have some time without them??

LOL !!! surely part of the reason to send DCs to school is to have some time without them??

I've only managed to volunteer a few times, but when I have I've always been given my own child as part of a group. However I know that in the school my BFs children go to they discourage this so as to prevent favouratism

I would much rather not be with ds then I don't feel I need to get involved when he plays up (which he invariably does at some point)

Ours puts parents with a different group. I think part of the reasoning behind it is that if something happens involving your own child, eg an accident, you are almost certainly going to be giving your own child all of your attention rather than keeping an eye on the whole group.

That makes sense, actually, and the thing about avoiding favouritism.

DH has volunteered to do this on Thursday. Given that I suspect he will be the only man I rather think he will spend an awful lot of time taking small boys to the toilet!

My mother - a teacher - will say that an easy way of telling how the school views your child's behaviour is to see how they are place on school trips - her school would never give anyone with any tendencies to a parent volunteer.

I love that, tendencies.

Our school puts the children with their parents without any worries, it does vary school to school. Your best bet would be to ask the school what their standing on this is

Sometimes I get my DC, othertimes I havn't.

I got put with DS and a group on one trip and asked why and they said that previous parents had complained because they only volunteered to be with their children

personally I believe small children show off when their parents are in the school officially .. so prefer to deal with other kids who tend to behave incredibly well (but then I have a way with a sucky-in breath)

I wouldn't expect to be but I always have had my child in my group. Wouldn't mind either way but I think the children like being in the group with their mum, they think it's cool.

That's exactly what she was saying, Twiglett, which I thought was odd. I can see why that's part of the reason but not all.

to borrow a phrase

fraek