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Boarding School Preparation

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Howmanywordspm · 29/07/2018 19:19

As I sit sewing name labels on everything, I wondered if anyone had tips on boarding school preparation.

The one I’ve been told is get two different duvet covers as it’s then easy to see if the bedding has been changed that week or whether last week’s is still on there.

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Michaelahpurple · 29/07/2018 20:52

Teach them to :
Change bed (most schools expect them to do this)
Make their bed
Cut toe and finger nails
Check all on track about frequency of hair washing etc
Practice gathering up their laundry on a given day - carnage results if they forget
Will think if anything else leaps to mind...

Howmanywordspm · 29/07/2018 21:01

I’ve been trying to get laundry chucked into wash bag for a few months now - for someone so good at sports their aim is rubbish Grin

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AtleastitsnotMonday · 30/07/2018 22:20

Senior or prep?
Keep sewing! Basically name it, name it and name it again!
Keep a really close eye on the school calendar, note events coming up that may require something out of the ordinary e.g equipment, donation, costume etc saves a few emergency Amazon didn’t deliveries.
Don’t insist on a phone call at a certain time each day, sometimes in the early days commitment to phoning Home stands in the way of bonding with peers.
Tip of the boarding staff if you think there is a problem.
Never be afraid to ask questions.
Don’t plan too much for the first Exeat. They will be exhausted!

Howmanywordspm · 30/07/2018 23:18

Senior

Do I not escape “but I need a yellow t-shirt with purple zig-zags for 8am tomorrow” requests?

Thank you both for the tips.

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AtleastitsnotMonday · 31/07/2018 00:13

No, there are definitely fewer costumes needed in senior (until 6th form parties start!)

Pythonesque · 31/07/2018 00:27

Hopefully you will escape such requests. My eldest has usually worked out in advance when she will need to take something unusual back with her, or else they just pass stuff around.

My son is also starting boarding in September. Have recently pointed out that boys that don't already know him won't necessarily know he doesn't like being touched ... (had a very jumpy day last week ... and looked at me like I had two heads when I suggested some boys at senior school might be more physically outgoing - we're talking nudge on the shoulder type stuff here)

Agree with looking at calendars ahead of time. Work out when the pickups are for exeats as well as half-term - often Friday lunchtimes. I've got my head in the sand on this one a little bit, will need to be more rather than less organised because I'll have my 2 in opposite directions so any overlaps will need advance planning.

TheBlessedCheesemaker · 31/07/2018 11:36

Don't forget a lockable box of some kind in addition to whatever is supplied by the school. Money and chocolate will always disappear if not locked away. We bought a proper tuck box but not sure they are 'in' these days; imagine any old lockable box will do the job.

DS got shedloads of street cred on the first day by having some really good posters. Classic film posters and classic rock band posters (eg Nirvana) go down well.

iPhone chargers get nicked all the time so pack 3 (unless you are confident that your DC will be one of the pinchers)

For towels/duvets get 100% cotton (they will boil them to death) and go for something quite distinctive. You will never see a white pillowcase again if you put it in the school wash.

We also taught DS how to play stud poker and backgammon (including how to work out odds/gamble).

BubblesBuddy · 31/07/2018 14:37

My DDs had tuck boxes - girls seem to have lots of possessions!

I think you might also need to look at the school diary with a slightly more critical view than picking up dates and times. There are sports matches, concerts, drama and possibly House events you might like to attend and support your child.

My friend’s DH always put himself first and never was around for prize giving day. Too busy sailing even when DC was getting a prize. It really depends how much you value these moments in life as opposed to pleasing yourself but it seemed very selfish from my POV. However my DDs were used to us being around to support them even if they were boarding and we built our life around their diaries! I don’t regret it though. You don’t get that time over again and you certainly cannot expect prizes all the time.

BubblesBuddy · 31/07/2018 14:41

Oh yes! Washing! DDs underwear was grey after first school wash! Shrinking was another school wash problem. Don’t allow a school wash for anything DC cares about! Girls can be very fussy about their clothes and will bring washing home!

Seeyounexttue · 31/07/2018 14:48

Prepare yourself (and your child) that at some point here will be homesickness. It's best to work out now how you're going to deal with it,rather than when the teary phone calls start.

AtleastitsnotMonday · 31/07/2018 17:01

Oh and on the subject of laundry, don’t send anything to the laundry that can’t withstand the tumble drier. Just buy black knickers, it’s safer!

Howmanywordspm · 31/07/2018 22:25

On the subject of laundry - what quantities of home clothes do your dc take?

We’ve not been given quantities and I’m not sure how much storage they have especially considering the amount of uniform (specified quantities) purchased.

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TheBlessedCheesemaker · 01/08/2018 05:31

DS uses far less in terms of home clothes than I expected. Might be because he is very sporty, but they seem to live in sports kit - wearing house shirts/t shirts on top of shorts/Trekkies. And flip flops. I only pack him a couple of pairs of jeans and handful of tshirts on top.

Aethelthryth · 01/08/2018 06:07

Make goodbyes brisk and cheerful. Be positive, so that your child doesn't worry about you

Send lots of letters and parcels

Don't worry if s/he doesn't communicate much- it's a good sign

No matter how many name tapes you sew in, s/he will probably come home without a lot of his/her stuff and with a lot of other people's. Comment will be met with eye-rolling. This may not apply to girls. I have given up worrying about it.

Agree with all previous comments about laundry. Also with making sure the school diary becomes your diary

Encourage him/her to co-operate with the older boys/girls in the house. They can be really helpful in sorting out little problems amongst the juniors.

Look forward to really lovely family time when s/he is home. Boarding school is a great preserver of good relations between teenagers and their parents

BubblesBuddy · 01/08/2018 09:03

I rather suspect DS take less than DDs!

Our school gave a recommended amount for home clothes. However, this gradually builds up as they become aware of the latest fashions in school. DS probably do not do this so much!

We had a smart outfit for chapel and several changes for the weekends and evenings. Lots of the girls liked trackies. You can always send a skeleton amount and see how it goes. However, with the washing situation at our school (hot wash and tumble dry) home clothes could not be washed or we would have had to replace them all the time! I would therefore take jeans, chino type trousers, t shirts and shirts and something to put over the top when it gets chilly.

Black knickers for 11 year olds are very difficult to find!

BubblesBuddy · 01/08/2018 09:03

Black knickers for girls I mean!

Enb76 · 01/08/2018 09:24

From my perspective as an ex-boarder - we only wore home clothes on weekends, if weekly a pair of jeans and a t-shirt/jumper is probably enough. Send more than you need at the beginning and then get your child to pack after the first term - they will know better than you what they need.

Don't buy the cheapest canvas hockey boots, not only are they ugly but your child will have wet feet all through Michaelmas.

We had no option but to change our beds on certain days, everyone complied as there was no real option not to. If a boy, everything went to the school laundry, if a girl we had washing machines so could do some of our own (this may be the case for both sexes now). Anything going to school laundry may not come back or not recognisably.

Anything precious should not be taken.

We did not have separated showers, they were all communal (again, this may have changed). Breakfast is possibly the only reasonable meal so stock up - the luminous jam, however revolting looking is really tasty, tea from a massive urn is the best tea ever, the bacon and the sausages are also good. The mashed potato is revolting, as are the scrambled eggs. There will be a grey unidentified meat day - best stock up at the salad bar on those days.
An apple is not a lunch.

Board and card games are a life saver (we were not allowed mobile phones and television was limited) as are really random tasks like rag rug making. Being able to be on your own in a room full of people is a life skill. Playing a musical instrument was a sure fire way to get free time out of the boarding house.

Pack headphones.

I personally didn't get homesick and school holidays were a pain as I much preferred being at school. My family wasn't awful, they were fantastic but going home meant home to their rules, going back to home routines and strangely there's a lot more autonomy and freedom at boarding school.

BubblesBuddy · 01/08/2018 12:28

The above is nothing like the experience of my DDs. The boarding houses now have electronic showers and they always did have separate cubicles! The food was also extremely good. In fact the same supplier supplied DDs university hall and they spoilt everything. The school food was amazing with salad bars, food from all over the world and hearty roasts! You would only dislike the food if you were the pickiest person ever! It was more like a restaurant. DD2 moved for 6th form and that was not so good but still perfectly edible. They did their own cooking in upper 6th but she had her Leiths Certificate so it was OK if a bit time consuming.

Rag rug making??? When was this? My DDs had a whole myriad of clubs and societiety to join. At one time DD1 was doing 13 activities. DD2 was always fully engaged too. A child who embraces all a school has to offer is never bored.

I think girls might lounge around more in the evening in home clothes and they often changed after formal school ended. A bit like going home! However, schools vary and DCs soon get into the swing of what happens.

ABitOTT · 01/08/2018 20:51

Get used to items of clothing going missing. Doesnt matter that they've got name tapes & you've also written your DS's surname in black marker on the inside legs of his tracksuit bottoms. They'll still go missing & he'll bring home someone else's. Or was that just me?

Snacks are important so pack lots as if your child is anything like mine, he'll be constantly hungry. Fortunately we have a Chinese supermarket nearby. I purchased so many that they gave me a discount!

Prepare to miss your child more than they miss you. The first half term was a challenge for both of us & DS called me daily. DS instigated the idea of boarding in the first place & after initial nerves, he threw himself into it. In fact, he was constantly busy with extra curricular activities as well as eating all those Chinese noodles.

BubblesBuddy · 02/08/2018 09:59

Oh yes, Chinese noodles clogging up the sink plug holes!!! As House Captain DD was asked to find the culprits and persuade them to either eat the noodles or put them in the bin - not down the sink!

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