Homeschooling

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Does anyone else feel like their ideal situation would be to homeschool but they can't because of their exhaustion? I'm not at the schooling stage yet but if I still feel anything like I do now I just can't imagine having the energy even though I dread putting her in school.

Hi. How old is your DC and why do you dread schooling so early on?

Why are you worried about sending her to school?

She's only a baby but I hated school and disagree with the system of it. Anyway I'm looking way too far into the future.

I suggest you get some counselling and look around several schools. Not all schools are the same. You also could do with getting a clear idea of why you hated school so much, to help prevent issues for your daughter.

I don't need counselling for it and I know why I hated them. I'm sure I'll find a way of homeschooling her. I wasn't asking for personal advice I was wondering if anyone else felt the same.

I think if you feel exhausted at the prospect of home schooling before you have even started doing it then perhaps it's not the route for you.

Until ds was 3 and a half, I would always have answered the question 'what would you like to do' with 'sleep'. How old is your dd?

The fact is, you are homeschooling at the moment and completely exhausted and if you want you can just go on doing it. I have to say, it was going to school that sorted out ds's early rising habit eventually though.

Ok so if you are sure you will homeschool that's great! No need to be rude!

I know lots of very successful home schoolers but they haven't started from the point of view of "I hated school, therefore my child will too and I must protect her."
If you have issues you will bring those issues into HE as much as anything else; if you were bullied, or have ASD or feel you underachieved or whatever, those issues will still be there.
It sounds like your DC is very young, but you will discover that she is an independent person and not necessarily anything like you. She may even need school.

And I can understand not wanting to send your DC to school at present, but education changes a lot and might even improve by the time your LO is ready to start. AND some things have improved massively in my experience (the attitude to bullying is one).

I know lots of people that successfully home educate too and most of them didn't enjoy school and don't want to put their kids in that environment because they don't agree with it. I think that's a pretty valid reason. Putting words into my mouth saying- "I hated school, therefore my child will too and I must protect her." I never said she would hate it. I just disagree with the values it teaches kids ie. obey authority without question. I think it's a bad environment and I would want to put her in it unless she thrives in structure and really wanted to be there. Alternative schools are expensive and state schools may differ very slightly with different people but the values are all the same.

Did you know there’s a home Ed forum on here op

So how old is your dd?

Most children become less physically tiring to care for as they get older, and many parents become better able to manage caring with more experience. I found my first child absolutely exhausting when she was small, now I regularly take care of seven between 3 and 10yrs, several with special needs, and find it completely doable. Being knackered at this is not a sign that you won't manage home-ed in the future.

Your personal reasons for home-edding won't necessarily have any effect on the quality of the provision you offer your child. Your skills as a carer are much more relevant in that respect.

at this *time

I decided to HE dd for a couple of years. You can, if you wish, dip in and out of HE. I chose to HE because school was not working for dd and chose to send her back because secondary school was the right environment for dd.

Schools have changed and are no longer so authoritarian. My experience of school was not good, but I was determined not to let that cloud my judgement. I think, as your dd grows, you sort of get a feeling of what would be right for them and you have to go with that, if that makes sense.

You could always get in touch with a HE group and ask if you could go along to a meeting to chat to those who are HEing already. Ask your LEA of what groups exist.

I was lucky enough to not have to work. I did not find it exhausting. It is important to get into social groups, even in preschool, for both you and her.

Have a look at different schools. My middle son’s school is very authoritarian,my youngest son’s isn’t at all. They can work lying down on the floor there is appropriate to the work they’re doing. Both state schools.

I remember thinking I wanted to homeschool but actually I think all my kids have enjoyed school much more than they would have enjoyed home. It was/still is always there is reserve.

'Obey authority without question'?

Can't say that was my DC's experience of state school!

It's one reason why Brits don't do so well on PISA tests: for all of its faults, there is an emphasis on enquiry and challenging in the English system; whereas those who top the PISA scores often come from rigid, authoritarian systems.

“. I just disagree with the values it teaches kids ie. obey authority without question.”

I think you need to look at a few schools.

Facebook has amazing support and resource groups for home education, even for early years (before school age). Make sure you type in 'home education' when searching for appropriate groups - homeschooling is not a term widely used in the UK.

Home Education is amazing. Such a vibrant and varied community.

You're tired and exhausted from having a baby. That's natural. It does change and evolve as your child gets older - though I won't lie, I'm often exhausted! I'm sort of used to it though.

Almost all schools have those values. That's how they're run. They differ but not hugely .I shall check fb out x

Hi,
I understand that schooling might be dauting for parents and children alike. Homeschooling needs to be approached in tiny little steps. It doesn't need to be an everything or nothing situation. You could homeschooled your child in the morning and send her to school in the afternoon or vice-versa or you could integrate a homeschooling group or.... possibilities are endless.
The fact is you have a healthy baby who just can't wait to learn about her environment and everything :).
If you are looking for tips and ideas on alternative education your young child, please have a look at
@childrenlovelearning (Facebook)
or
www.childrenleavelearning.com

Sorry meant to write www.childrenlovelearning.com

Slip of the tongue? ;0)

There are reasons for homeschooling but a parent's dread of putting a child in school when the child isn't even at school age is not one of them.

School doesn't suit every child but the vast majority of children have happy and successful school careers.

Please don't project your own negative experiences on to your child.

Why not talk to parents of children who are at your local schools and have a visit and try to change your mindset. Most primary schools are lovely, warm and nurturing environments.

I really don't think you should write off all schools because of your experience, especially if you find life as a mother exhausting (who doesn't but teaching your own child is even more exhausting - I speak as a mother and a teacher).

You could homeschooled your child in the morning and send her to school in the afternoon or vice-versa

This is flexi schooling and, unless there is some specific reason (like asd), I don't think you can.