Behaviour letters

[Goldenbasket]

DS was kicked by another boy at school. All quite nasty. School sent out a behaviour letter for the parents to sign. I saw the parents at football yesterday and they were really hostile (and I'm not good at confrontation and have been feeling sick with worry about this all weekend..). Clearly the parents are going to go to the school to make a counter allegation about my child. Does anyone know what will happen if they don't sign the form? DS felt intimidated by the parents and has been so upset about the whole thing. He was really upset going to school today.

The school can actually do nothing about the behaviour or otherwise of the parents other than talking to them, they cannot make the parents sign the letter. They can as a school clearly point out to the parents and the other pupil where things could go if there are repeats of the poor behaviour in terms of fixed term and permanent exclusion. However if the parents are not in the mood to listen there is zero chance of their child listening.
I am sure that the school will have investigated the incident before any behaviour letter was issued, so to me they have already decided who was at fault and that does not appear to be your son. The only suggestion is that your son needs to keep away from this other pupil and allow the "heat" to go out of the situation.

I think it's very common when a child is accused of doing something to another child for the parents to blame the victim in some way and not accept it's their child's fault. You see it on mumsnet too, so the school will probably be expecting it and give less weight to it.

Agree with pp, parents of child in the wrong failing to admit it is, I fear, all too common. It's certainly our experience at the moment that they will try and blame the victim instead.

Thanks all. Good advice. Just need to stay calm I think.