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How to reward after a good parent/teacher interview?

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wangle99 · 04/03/2007 20:27

Yesterday we had parent/teacher meetings with all of DD (age 9) teacher's and it was fantastic, she didn't do too well at the end of last year and has 'pulled her socks up' and got on with it producing some fantastic work with fantastic effort.

Not quite sure how to reward her for this effort, DH and I have praised praised and praised some more but I think DD would appreciate it more if she had 'something' she could think 'I got that because I was trying hard at school'.

Opinions/ideas? Thank you...

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HappyasLarry · 04/03/2007 20:30

I don´t think it is a good idea to "get something" in this situation, otherwise you will always just have to get something more whenever she deserves praise. Shouldn´t praise be enough?

If anything I would ask your DD how she would like to spend some free time as a family and all have some quality time together.

janeite · 04/03/2007 20:34

We always buy our two a new book as a present for good parents' evenings. My view is a) it's good for them to recognise that you appreciate their working hard at school and b) you can never have too many books!

Greensleeves · 04/03/2007 20:34

A cuddle, a kiss and some praise.

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wangle99 · 04/03/2007 20:39

HLarry think that is fab idea will ask DD if anywhere particular she'd like to go at Easter.

Love the book idea as well - I agree never too many books!!!

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juuule · 04/03/2007 20:47

I would pass on the good reports and praise and let her know just how pleased we were and how she will benefit all round by continuing to do well.

princesscc · 04/03/2007 20:57

I agree, a book or a family treat is probably the best idea. If you start giving bigger presents, dd will end up expecting it everytime and lets face it - it is their 'job' to do well at school! My dd just did well in the 11+ and she got a book, we went to the pictures and I took her swimming. I never usually go swimming, coz I hate it, but we went as a family yesterday.

Twiglett · 04/03/2007 21:00

a family treat? take her to a show or a posh dinner .. treat her like she's a bit more grown up because she's proved she can pull her socks up and that's what growing up is about ... learning something about yourself and working to change it

well done your dd by the way

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wangle99 · 04/03/2007 21:06

We have been praising her lots but saying 'you've done fantastically well etc' just seems so lame to how we actually feel!!!

I think the family day out will be a great idea, DH can take some time off work and we can do something and let her take the lead. 9 is such a hard age - still quite young but wanting to be grown up...

Thank you for your comments

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morningpaper · 04/03/2007 21:07

agree with Greensleeves

princesscc · 04/03/2007 21:16

IF she's 9 and wants to feel grown up, how about a girlie shopping day? You & dd take to the shops! Go in all the posh shops, try on all the gear, spray perfume, do lunch and buy her something to wear.

thelittleElf · 04/03/2007 21:19

I don't think she needs to be rewarded with material things tbh....like a couple of people have said already. You giving her praise should be enough
Children shouldn't need a 'prize' everytime they succeed in something.....positive praise is all they need!

princesscc · 04/03/2007 21:35

I really wish I could practice what I preach! I've already said that dd has just done well in her 11+, but she has spoken to so many of her friends this weekend that have had money and big presents. I WILL NOT give in, even tho I feel hideously guilty that when she goes to school tomorrow, she will have to say that all she got was a 4.99 book, while I know that one got a laptop, one got £100 and one got an Ipod!

juuule · 04/03/2007 21:57

Standing joke with us that ds1 (got brilliant results with his GCSEs) asked for a bucket of KFC if he did well in his GCSEs. Certain classmates got goodness knows what (some parents have soooo much money to spare) for doing not quite as well as he did. Two years later he was still reminding us that we hadn't actually delivered on the KFC front At the end of first year at Uni we bought him........no not KFC.......but we did do a big dish of chicken dippers.....he thinks it's hilarious. We will probably never live it down. However, he was always aware that his GCSEs, A'levels were for him, for what he wanted to do and for furthering his life in the way he wanted. He wasn't doing it for books, nintendos....etc...etc.

thelittleElf · 04/03/2007 21:59

Well said!

princesscc · 05/03/2007 12:01

Juuule ~ thanks for that! I think that shows that you have a well balance, happy boy who knows you are very proud of him, without having to shell out tons of money! It's just what I strive for myself. I did remind her that I bought her a bunch of daffs from the supermarket, but she didn't seem that impressed! I hope she turns out like your lad! Top mum!

juuule · 05/03/2007 12:07

ooooh don't know what to say now...thanks

nikkie · 05/03/2007 19:48

If one of my dds does particularly well they get to choose what we have for tea , or go out for lunch or a special pudding.We have also chosen something like a comic or a book.

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