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Do you think this is fair?

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wotzsaname · 26/01/2007 15:54

My dd has come home worried for a boy in her class who sits next to her. Yr 6.
Early morning boy asked to go to the toilet and teacher said infront of class loudly "whats the matter, do you have a medical problem? No." he wasnt allowed to go until break.
Same boy asked teacher on another day, what time school trip was going to finish, his mum had asked him to double check. Teacher said "do i look like a newsletter?". She didnt tell him the time, but in the same breath could have.

your comments?
FWIW parents evening is due soon.

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Greensleeves · 26/01/2007 15:55

Rude cow.

moondog · 26/01/2007 15:55

Sarcasm with small children is unforgivable.
But then..you are gonig on hearsay so that's a bit off if you mention it too.

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wotzsaname · 26/01/2007 15:58

Spoke to the mother in playground who told me waht a bad week boy had had and waht had been said.
i asked my dd what was said (no promting) and she confirmed the same comments that boy had told his mother. My dd sits next to this boy, so she heard it all as it was said.

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AeFondKiss · 26/01/2007 15:59

I think it is bad but what can you do about it?

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wotzsaname · 26/01/2007 16:14

its not a great example is it to show sarcasm and belittle a child infront of the class. Infact at any time.

Most of the class from what I can gather, worry about asking her anything.

AFK, exactly, what can you do?

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hana · 26/01/2007 16:15

think if it's not your child would be hard to intervene and say something

AeFondKiss · 26/01/2007 16:19

it is something I dislike about my dd's school, very unapproachable teachers, beyond criticism BUT very quick to be critical of children and parents......

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wotzsaname · 26/01/2007 16:20

its a very important year with their stats and this is behaviour is making my dd less likely to ask educational questions for fear of sarcastic response. which she has had too.

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WigWamBam · 26/01/2007 16:26

If it were my child, I would be wanting words with the teacher and ultimately the head if I got no joy. But there's not much that you can do on this child's behalf - it's for his parents to deal with, not you.

If it's affecting your own child then of course you should be able to address it - with the head if you can't approach the teacher. But otherwise there's not a lot you can do.

LAtyke · 26/01/2007 16:45

I agree with greensleeves. If your child is worried about asking questions in class - I think I would be concerned enough to mention it at parents evening.
you might not be popular with Teacher afterwards though .

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wotzsaname · 26/01/2007 16:51

well i dont intend to make her a lifelong friend, but do want to do whats best for my dd. and for that matter her class mate.

Will take back up with me to parents evening DH can come.

last parents eveing she said that my dd should not worry about asking questions and that she is very approachable and she gets on well with all the children. i tried not to raise my eybrows as i have a very expressive face.

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MorocconOil · 26/01/2007 20:38

A similar situation arose at my dcs school. Several parents spoke to the teacher about it at parents evening. When children reported it was still going on one parent took it up with the head. The head apparently 'dealt' with it and so far no further incidents have been reported. The parent made sure the details had been formally logged and can be used if further incidents occur.

Every school should have formal procedures in place for dealing with these kind of situations .

mamama · 26/01/2007 20:45

No.

From what you said, it's rude, unkind, unhelpful, disrespectful, doesn't generate a good feeling for anyone and sets a bad example to the children.

I would probably have a quiet, calm, pleasant word with the teacher if it were my son. And, if that didn't help, a chat with the head.

(I'm a teacher btw)

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wotzsaname · 26/01/2007 22:57

thank you for you responses. I do feel that i shouldnt just let it go as teaching is a great profession and children should respect their teachers (so mine are taught to) and this is a perons who happens to be a teacher and is not setting a great example, irrespective of how they achive the class exam results.

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mummymagic · 26/01/2007 23:17

Ok, I am a secondary teacher and even some of the positive, jokey 'sarcasm' goes over some of the kids heads so its not a good technique to use. Mind you, teaching can be stressful...

Trying to think of ways you could approach it without just putting her back up

What about
YOU: 'dd is a bit worried about her sats coming up, what can we do to help her? She says she has loads of questions but is shy and doesn't want to ask them all the time?'

Then hopefully teacher says 'oh, of course she should put her hand up' etc etc (and is a bit more aware of encouraging her... maybe others too).

YOU: 'thank you kind teacher, i will make sure to check that she is asking things..'

You can follow up over next week, if teacher is still being rude then maybe you could say that dd is taking things a bit personally and that you don't think she understands exactly.

(I know this puts it more on to your dd and not the teacher but your goal is actually that the teacher stops being rude.)

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wotzsaname · 26/01/2007 23:21

MM i do agree, i dont want tp put her back up. Even im scared to ask questions. Thank you.

LOL - FWIW i like the "thankyou kind teachr" i wont quote you word for word!

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mummymagic · 26/01/2007 23:33

yes, it was just an example but a bit of flattery goes a long way !!

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wotzsaname · 26/01/2007 23:38

I know what you meant. ill give it a go.

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