Single mum and competitive 4+ assessments

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Please could anyone offer advice. DC will be doing competitive 4+ assessments in Jan. I am a single mum. DC is starting to go to ex with view to going overnight. I am worried that DC will not be able to cope with staying away from me such that she will not be able to 'prepare' or perform well on the day. Ex is very uninterested. I am worried that DCs chances will not be the best. Any experience or advice please?

I have no idea but I just wanted to say how proud I am that you've used 'uninterested' correctly instead of the often misused and abused 'disinterested'.

January as in over 8 months away...I think you have time to see how this goes. personally it may work out better for your child as the child will have to cope without you for the assessment.

Hi OP. Without wanting to sound unsupportive, you do sound a little over-anxious about the assessment. I've no idea about the situation with your ex - do you mean he is uninterested in the 4+ or in your daughter? What are you concerned about specifically? Is it the separation from you or the relationship with her father? One of the things the schools look out for is confidence and sociability so maybe it will be good for DD to be exposed to a new environment? 8 months is a huge amount of time for her to adjust.

January is 9 months away, that is a very long time in the life of a 3 year old. There is plenty of time for her to get accustomed to staying overnight at her fathers house. I'm not sure what your point about her not being able to perform on the day relates to? Unless you are planning on prepping her 24/7 for the assessments (please don't!) then surely it should benefit her to be spending time with both parents? How much time will she be spending with her father? Is there some huge backstory here because on the face of it, it looks as if you are trying to use this concern over entrance exams as an excuse to limit contact.