prep school boarding or day?

[charleswokingham]

My DS got the offers for year4 entrance to Ludgrove, Cothill, Summerfield and Papplewick, he is bright, academic and sporty boy. I prefer Ludgrove(full boarding from year 4) for my DS, but Mum prefer Papplewick for day school(full boarding from year year7).

Any comments from you?

Thanks in advance.

And you could try not dismissing the fact that some people have had and know people who have devastating issues as a result of early boarding. How about that?

But having a separate topic wouldn't change that. You said you want a separate topic so you can avoid these threads, but as this has the word 'boarding' in the title you can avoid this too, surely? Either you want to comment on these threads or you don't?

I think "boarding" is a very specific kind of education and as such should have a board of its own. I possibly would post in there but it wouldn't be in support and I would know not to go there if I wasn't up for a boarding school barney. When boarding pops up in "education" I suppose that given my own history and work I am always going to be curious when I see the word "boarding" in the title of a thread and I only ever comment on the threads regarding very young children boarding as I have extensive experience of this. Boarding has a place but not under the age of 11 preferably not till the mid teen years.

Here we go again

Same shit, different thread.

But having a separate topic wouldn't change that.

It would, because then the whole topic would be hideable.

That's only your opinion, though, Nicki.

As a parent of DC who currently attend a predominantly boarding prep school, but who do not board (well, DC1 now part boards through their own choice), I like to think I can see both sides of this argument - but that's the point - there are two sides, and it does get depressingly repetitive when every thread with a parent seeking advice has at least one poster telling them that boarding is cruel and wrong rather than actually listening to the question. It's not helpful and it is exceedingly unlikely that anyone will have chosen a boarding prep school without a lot of soul searching beforehand.

I can hardly believe I am typing this however,
My view of boarding school was formed as a seven year old in a cold convent in the early 1980's with one letter a week home and one letter a week back (if mum remembered to write)
Would I put my 7 year old through that? Not on your nelly
However, dc's now attend a lovely school which has boarders and the modern boarding is a world away from my experience. Contact with home is not limited to a letter or queuing for the pay phone.

I would now genuinely not be against ds's having 1-2 nights a week as boarders in prep school. Whereas previously my opinion was not even over my dead body(written into my will)

Thank you very much for all your information.

Today we received papplewick's letter, our DS got the scholaship. So we will go papplewick this year.

Thanks again for everyone comments.

Congratulations!

Your DW will be pleased.

Came on to respond but am unable to write better posts than stealth and Strumpers.

Congratulations to your son OP, I hope he enjoys his time at school.

Well Done to him!

I haven't said boarding is "cruel and wrong" though. I've said there's a place for it. I do not agree with boarding below a certain age and never will. And I find that most posters who argue for boarding would not send their child at age 8/9 themselves anyway.

Anyway I hope it all works out for your son OP. I mean that.

Boarding has a place but not under the age of 11 preferably not till the mid teen years.

Isn't it brilliant that not a single one of the families of boarding children across the country had to ask your permission before they went ahead with their reprehensible actions?

What a daft thing to say. Am I supposed to have an answer for that or was it just a general observation?

I was a young boarder I went aged 9, my sister went aged 4, just about to turn five. I rather wish there had been some kind of outside input that prevented it to be honest.

I keep double checking the school years on these threads in the hope that I've misunderstood the ages of the children. Poor little sods.

Congratulations to your DS, OP. I hope everything goes well.

Thank you everyone.

What a lucky boy to have a scholarship to Papplewick, I'm so jealous, it's such a great school congratulations!

Well done to your DS and I am so glad it worked out for you!

Thanks.