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How DO I stop my child talking AT SCHOOL?

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Twiglett · 04/12/2006 15:51

he is talking at the wrong time

he is blaming his best friend

but HE is the one who is getting the warnings so obviously friend is a bit more savvy on when to shut up

I now have a check chart on warnings up on the wall .. (also has space for stickers) .. and if he manages to go 2 or 3 days without warnings he gets a treat

but he's getting them quite consistently .. but only 1 a day ..

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Papillon · 04/12/2006 15:55

just accept it Twiglett he is a motor mouth like you

sorry no suggestions

noddyholder · 04/12/2006 15:56

My ds didn't stop this until he went to secondary school All the teachers loved him and he was a sweet boy in primary but a terrible chatterbox and no one ever managed to stop him!The sheer size and change when he went to secondary school finally stopped him

fairyjay · 04/12/2006 15:57

My ds was always the one in trouble when he was younger - because his friends were always quick to leave the scene of the crime!!

He's latched on to it now - mind you, he's 14!

SherlockLGJ · 04/12/2006 15:57

Pasta worked for us.

HuwEdwards · 04/12/2006 15:57

How does school deal with it?

In DD1's school, for minor misdemeanours like this, they lose 5mins playtime, which appears to be a big deal and acts as a suitable deterrenet mostly.

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Twiglett · 04/12/2006 16:45

he just gets warnings to be honest

from what I understand they have a 3 warnings and then they have to sit in a 'thinking' space ( a special table and chair next to teacher's desk)

but DS never gets 3 warnings .. 2 is his maximum .. and usually once .. but they're most days

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Miaou · 04/12/2006 17:05

Don't stress, Twigster. He is only little, isn't he? I really doubt that any rewards/punishments carried out at home will have any effect on his behaviour in school anyway.

If he is stopping after two warnings, then tbh just be glad he is stopping.

Btw I speak from experience - dd2 was and is like this. She is now 8 and getting better at controlling herself but still regularly gets sent to sit by herself because she disturbs her neighbours

RubberDuckWithCranberrySauce · 04/12/2006 17:08

TBH I'm not sure you CAN do much about it if the incidents are at school tbh - it's up to the teachers who catch it at the time Horribly frustrating though, I know.

My ds1 (in Year 1) is always larking about with his two best friends - school has a zero tolerance policy with them and sit them all as far apart from each other as possible the second they start. I think it's been quite effective. Can you perhaps get the teachers to sit the two of them apart?

Mind you - I was the chatterbox growing up and I remember clearly my best friend constantly winding me up and up until I snapped and finally spoke to her to ask her to shut up, then it would be me who got into trouble for talking So I have a lot of sympathy for your son!

mummydear · 04/12/2006 18:09

How DO I stop my child talking AT SCHOOL? - You dont, the teacher does.

The teacher should be able to deal with this , its a common enough problem in classes isn't it?

A discussion with teacher is needed, the 'punishment'is not having any effect.

In our school continous misbehavior throughout the listen means they miss some of playtime, on ocassions a child will be put out of the classroom to sit.

For a boy in DS class the teacher is doing a sticker chart .

wakeupandsmellthecoffee · 04/12/2006 19:30

The teachers and I have been trying for three years to stop this . He is 7 now . We have tried everything ,marbles ,treats threats I even wrote on his hand one morning DONT CHAT . Hoping this would remind him . I also said to his teacher I was setting her a challenge to try and stop him and if it meant sending him to the headteacher I wouldnt like it inside but she would hear no argument from me . Has he stopped has he hell . I have given up LOL . He has so much to say ,really inteligent stuff ,so much is going on in his brain that it has to come out .

cazzybabs · 04/12/2006 19:44

It needs to be postitive and achievable - clearly 2-3 days is too much...how about 3 smarties if he only gets 1 warning a day, and then this could turn into no warnings a day he gets a new rubber etc and then after 2-3 days he gets... etc etc.

If he were in my class I would prob. have him sitting by himself (if it really is a problem) and he would have a bahviour chart - if he remembers to put his hand up evyertime he want so to speak till playtime he can have a sticker etc etc and when he has a whole day of stickers he can go to the head/head of year/popular teacher who can say oh little twiglett you are doing well here have a special certificate...but if it not disturbing the others I would be inclined to just ignore it and praise all the postitive behaviour and good work. Also, just thinking from the top of my head, how about he has a squash ball or bluetac to fiddle with on the carpet - is this the main problem? Maybe it is because he finds it hard to sit still and having something to fiddle wiht would enable him to concentrate better on the teacher.

I am not sure how old he is but this is how I would deal with it (I used to teach yr 3 and have just swopped to year 1). I do agree with the teacher though it is very irrating - but as a parent you need to work togther.

Judy1234 · 04/12/2006 20:28

He may not really know he's doing it so therefore it's hard to blame him. Perhaps practise at home with him not speaking quite so much or when adults are talking or putting up his hand at home if he wants to speak for a few days. Sometimes mine will do that unconsciously at home because at school they have to do the hand up thing.

bloss · 04/12/2006 20:40

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