DS1 (AGE 5) came home from school with a skipping rope burn on his neck

[josben]

This was on Monday - I went and spoke to his teacher the next morning and told her it happened in the playground with a boy in the reception class - I told her who he was. DS1's teacher was very concerned and she's now told me that she's stopped the children playing with the ropes at playtime, and that, having spoke to the boy that she thought it was just an accident.

This boy is in DS2's class and the boy has been to our house for tea once. Whilst he was here he was completely hyper and he told his mum infront of me that "he hated my DS1 because he has freckles and a red face" I was a bit upset and angry but just made a mental note never to have this boy round again.

Anyway DS1 has now told me more about the skipping rope incident and it sounds like this boy did mean to hurt him ... I feel that I need to go into school tommorrow and ask DS1's teacher to tell this boys Mum what has happened. (what I think has happened) My DH also thinks the boy should be made to apologise to my DS1. Do you think this is reasonable or a bit OTT seeing as this boy is only 4 years old and "boys will be boys" etc?

id be very upset and a little concerned that 4/5 year olds arent being supervised properly in the playground, especially with skipping ropes. what would happen if boys being boys pulled jokingly with a rope round the neck. i know that sounds a bit full on but you dont get a rope burn from being hit with one, you get it from friction. poor boy

I think the boys mum should be informed. Also, the class teacher could speak to the children (during circle time maybe?) about the dangers.
My DS also suffered an incident like this which resulted in a cut to his neck from a skipping rope. I was not told about it by the school, I saw the injury myself and questioned the staff. The boy that did it to DS is also in Reception.
Punishment needs to be instant I think, especially at 4/5 years old.

What a horrid child. Your poor DS1 shouldn't have to put up with any of that. Tell him to stay well clear and play with some others.

I would tell the teacher that he was hurt. He should have had an accident report sent back to you by the school. Mention incident to teacher, but dont accuse other child, just say "you think XX might have been involved but not 100 per cent sure" and ask for them to keep an eye on things in playground..which they should be doing anyway!

Thanks for your thoughts, I've been worried about what to do with the burn - but I guess just to keep it clean and let the air get to it will be the best thing. hopefully it'll take a week and will be gone - like your son's, themulledSNOWMANneredjanitor.

I have also told my DS1 to shout STOP/NO! if anything like this happens again - he doesn't make a fuss and so he didn't tell a teacher when it happened - so I've just re-iterated (sp?) to him to always tell a teacher if something like this should happen again...