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REally annoyed at ds nursery today.

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Soulfly · 10/05/2004 16:00

I don't usually complain about ds nursery they are pretty good, well thats what I thought until today! I went to pick him up at just before 3pm because i have to pick dd up from the school next door, so always abit of a rush. At the door they said to me 'Oh * is abit dirty, hope you don't mind', i thought well probably water and a bit of paint or so. Got upstaires his clothes were in a carrier bag along with his SHOES! all covered in red paint and i mean covered. For some reason i took the buggy cause usually i don't cause i want him not to use it really. but anyway, got to his classroom and he was covered in red paint from head to foot. I was a bit shocked to say anything, so, anyways, i said 'what have they been doing' and they said they'd been outside, with paint and shaving foam!! I didn't say anything, i was too speachless. I put his shoes and clothes and coat in the washing machine, and if it doesn't come out then i am gonna demand a payment for them because his t-shirt did come from america that my mum had brought him, i am so cross, Is that a normal nursery thing to do?? Or am i over reacting??? What do you thinK??

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Soulfly · 10/05/2004 16:04

Anyone??

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littlemissbossy · 10/05/2004 16:08

well soulfly TBH i'd be p'd off if they were completely covered - a splatter of paint ok and accidents do happen but what were they doing outside with paint and shaving foam anyway(shaving foam in a nursery??? bizarre!!), were their any other kids the same?

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Soulfly · 10/05/2004 16:10

Yes apparently, i am just thinking, you let them look after you kids and they cover them in paint and shaving foam??? Sorry i can't believe it thats all. annoying thing is i gave him a bath this morning and now he has to have another one!!! GRRRRR

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iota · 10/05/2004 16:12

I hope the paint is washable - our nursery do a lot of messy stuff, which I am glad about as I don't tend to do it at home.
I don't put my son in posh clothes as he often spills his lunch on them, so I don't worry if they get messed up.
I would be pleased that the nursery allows messy play, but annoyed if the paint didn't wash out.

dogwalker · 10/05/2004 16:13

Soulfly - I do think your nursery has been a bit slack letting your son get completely covered in paint, I really don't think this is necessary at all, surely they've done this activity before and are used to the mess that happens. However, the children love painting and using shaving foam, the texture is great and not something they are normally allowed to play with. I do think you have a right to gripe though.

littlemissbossy · 10/05/2004 16:13

so the people that run this nursery ... had they been drinking this afternoon, left the kids to look after themselves perhaps

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Soulfly · 10/05/2004 16:16

lol i dunno. I hope it washes out i am doing it now, but we'll have to see. I have calmed down abit now, i don't dress him in posh clothes, but i didn't think he'd be covered head to foot in paint.

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littlemissbossy · 10/05/2004 16:22

no i agree, a bit much really, if you're happy with the nursery generally i'd leave it unless it happens again OR his clothes/shoes are ruined, they aren't cheap are they?

carla · 10/05/2004 16:30

I'd be hacked off but then comforted by the fact that at least they're making sure they're having fun.

sponge · 10/05/2004 16:32

It does sound like it got a bit out of hand. At my dd's nursery they wear aprons for painting and stuff although she always comes home dirty - but not covered.
I think they always use washable materials as they have to for their own premises, non-toxicity etc so you should be OK.
Still I'd let them know that you weren't too thrilled, without going too mad at them, and hopefully they'll be a bit more careful next time!
When dd was smaller they used to undress the kids down to nappies/ pants for water play etc which seems like quite a good solution.

Twinkie · 10/05/2004 16:36

I don't think I'd care too much - seems like he had a fab time and whats another bath - he'll probably love that too - nursery generally use non toxic washable paints and maybe only send him in certain clothes that you don't want to get ruined would be a good idea - I know when DD is given stuff like this she goes bonkers because it is not something I let her do at home unless she is in the garden and the weather is warm enough and at nursery they don't mind the mess - boisterous kids!!

Jimjams · 10/05/2004 16:46

My nursery use paint and shaving foam - specifically as an activity for my ds1 - who has sensory difficulties. All the kids get ionvolved- they put it all over the messy room tables and they all get thier hands in it- they all love it (except ds1- but he's getting better).

I have photos of him stripped down to vest and pants running along the floor of the messy room skidding in paint (first time he'd allowed paint near him for about 18 months- we were overjoyed and the "painting" covered our kitchen door for a long time.) If I can work out how to do it may post a link to them for comparison.

I don't ever send ds1 or ds2 to nursery in "special" clothes that I woould mind getting ruined as I'd rather he just got messy to be honest.

mummysurfer · 10/05/2004 16:48

clothes can get covered and allowances ought tobe made for this. but shoes and coats are another thing...you can send them in old clothes but not in old shoes, and shoes aren't generally washable and cost about £30 so I'd be pretty narked about the shoes. if he was being correctly supervised they ought to have seen that this was getting out of hand and ought to have intervened.
i used to teach in the nursery and we often played with shaving foam; a good tactile experience. parents would complain if it got in their hair as it looked dirty; our reaction 'c'est la vie'. they were there to learn not look nice. the only exception we made for this was when specifically requested eg. 'we're going straight into town after so can you keep him clean?'
but we did look after coats and shoes!! if it doesn't come out i'd say something, Soulfly.

KateandtheGirls · 10/05/2004 16:53

I have to say my feeling is that you have to expect that at a nursery. I'm sure they use only washable non-toxic materials (and if not I would be upset). He doesn't come home covered in red paint every day, and I bet he had a ball!

I like the fact that at school my daughter gets to paint and play with play dough and make a mess. It stops me feeling guilty that I don't do much of that at home. She's 4 1/2 and still comes home every day grubby, but happy because she's had fun. What's the harm in that? Obviously I only send her to school in play clothes.

katierocket · 10/05/2004 17:10

I always send DS to nursery in his 'rubbishy' clothes as he always comes back a mess. they strip them down for very messy activities but sometimes he's still got stuff all over his clothes (but probably not "covered".

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BadHair · 10/05/2004 17:13

I'd have been REALLY annoyed. The staff must have known yesterday that they would be doing messy stuff today, so they could at least have warned you. And especially the shoes - you kind of expect clothes to get a bit battered at nursery but not shoes.
And not all nursery paint is 100% washable - my dses have got plenty of t-shirts with paint-stained sleeves from nursery, as the stuff has hours to soak in so that not even a hot wash gets it all out.

Hulababy · 10/05/2004 17:14

I don't think it is acceptable to be that covered in paint at all. DD does loads of messy play and yes, she does sometimes get a bit messy but not covered. If there are accidents our nursery staff use the washing machine to clean up the clothes straight away. And the children are washed up afterwards too.

marthamoo · 10/05/2004 17:23

Before you go in all guns blazing I would check on the circumstances a bit more fully. They usually make them wear aprons for messy play - is it possible your ds got a bit giddy and helped to cover himself with paint? I think if they are going to do something as messy as that, though, they could pre-warn parents so you could be sure to send them in old clothes - I think I would suggest that.

When my brother was at nursery he came home blue one day - from head to toe: his hair, in his ears, the bottom of his vest where it had been hanging out of his jumper. It turned out another little boy had taken him in the corner and painted him!

Jimjams · 10/05/2004 19:19

Found the photos of ds1's nursery painting evcerywhere experience. Not sure about posting the pics on the net as there are other children in the photos. But basically they have taken off his trousers, shoes and socks, but he is wearing pants and a long t-shirt - quite a nice one but the paint must have come out as his brother wears it now (he won't wear aprons). His legs, t shirt and face and hair are covered in paint. The messy room floor is covered with newspaper- and there is a long strip of paper running the length of the room covered in paint. He is running down the paper-a hand held on each side by a nursery worker.

I think I would agre with marthmoo - check out the circumstances first- was he messier than the others? lol at your brother marthamoo.

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Soulfly · 11/05/2004 12:15

Thanks for all your comments, well today when i dropped him off this magical notice was on the door saying that could be bring spare clothes for when they done messy play. it wasn#'t there yesturday! Anyway, i washed his coat and shoes which have come up really nice, thankfully they only xcost me a £5 in peacocks, lol.

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fairyprincess · 11/05/2004 22:00

Hello Soulfly - perhaps they could ask for little ones to bring in their wellies next time as well

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