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My 12 year old DS was hit by a bigger boy at school today...

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calebsmummy · 14/11/2006 21:03

....for no apparent reason! he was collecting his bike and this boy came up and hit him around the head a few times. DS told him to go away and turned to get his bike when the other kid punched him in the neck

So my poor lovely wonderful boy, who is lovely to everyone came home sobbing. I am so angry!!! I have spoken to the head master who is going to see DS in the morning and hopefully they can find out who this nasty bully is.

I am very proud of DS for wanting to sort this out as I am all too aware that these bullies get away with it because the victim is too scared to say anything.

So what reaction and outcome should we expect from the school? DH and I have decided that if it isn't what we expect then we will take it further.

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southeastastra · 14/11/2006 21:08

would hope the school would suspend them! your poor son, it's awful

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calebsmummy · 14/11/2006 21:15

Yes at the very least! God I hate bullies so much, nasty pieces of work!

Does nayone know what the proceedure is for this kind of thing? We have never encountered it before so I have no idea what to expect. We have decided to wait until DS has spoken to them tomorrow before going in all guns blazing as we feel he needs to be able to stnad up to cowards like this kid and not have us deal with it all. But obviously we will be involved at some point.

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WhizzBangCaligula · 14/11/2006 21:18

Ask for a copy of their anti-bullying policy and see what it says about this kind of incident in there.

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calebsmummy · 14/11/2006 21:19

I have talked to DS and said he should stick with his friends (of which he has many )at all times for the moment as safety in numbers is always good. And his friends are such a great bunch of children, I know they will rally round him.

You don't expect it to happen to your child do you. I had to hold back the tears when he was so upset.

He seems much more positive now though. He's made of tough stuff my wonderful boy.

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calebsmummy · 14/11/2006 21:21

Yes Whizz, I am going to. It should explain their procedure in there I think. I will call the school again tomorrow mid morning and see what they have to say.

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frumpygrumpy · 14/11/2006 21:22

No real advice but.....so sorry to hear it, what a fright he and you must have had. Poor boy. Good for him that he's standing up to this. Good luck.

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calebsmummy · 15/11/2006 07:22

I'm really quite nervous about sending him in today. I know he will be fine, but I guess as a mum it's natural to worry. Going to drive him today (he usually cycles) but he has an after school club and I don't want him to be going to the bike sheds today.

He seems fine at the moment. I just hope he can stand firm today and that if he does see this boy, walk tall and ignore him.

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southeastastra · 15/11/2006 08:15

he sounds sensible! if he sticks with his friends as well he should be ok. don't let this one boy get to him, hope it all goes ok, let us know.

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calebsmummy · 15/11/2006 10:52

Just spoken to the head of DS school who has found the little sod who hit my boy. Apparently this boy was a 'bit hyped up yesterday' so thats why he did it. Oh what a fabulous excuse!!!!

Anyway, he and DS have faced each other, said boy has apologised and has been placed in isolation at school for the rest of the week. The boy has no previous history of this kind of thing and the head felt that although normally exclusion would be the way to go, generally kids hate the exclusion and beg for suspension instead (day off school see) The boys have shaken hands and nasty bully has been told to stay away from DS. Boys parents will be informed and it will be put on his records.

I think I am ok with the outcome. I do feel that going in guns blazing at the moment would cause more trouble for DS, which I don't want and obviously unless this boy is totally stupid, he knows that if he did anything else then apparently he is out of the school.

So why do I want to cry? Probably because the Head told me that numerous teachers have asked after DS today and have been praising him up as being a freindly sociable downright lovely chap.

So DS sticking with his friends today and hoping this is an end to it.

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southeastastra · 15/11/2006 12:30

sounds like the school handled it well and hopefully the boy won't do anything like it again. your son sounds lovely .

my ds(13) was hit at the park by a boy he didn't know at all, i went round all guns blazing but the boy had gone (don't know what i thought i would do!). it makes you feel awful doesn't it

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