If there is a naughty child in DS2 class am I allowed to aks teacher about her

[Mud]

in that for the last 2 weeks of term the only information i got about his year 1 class was about this girl spitting, or hitting, or throwing things or lying under the tables or shouting at the teacher. ds says she can be good when she wants to but she doesn't care about the teacher

i get the impression from ds that she is just plain naughty but i firstly don't want it affecting ds educationn which i tihnk it wil because his teacher is quite weak imo but also want to know if there are any reasons i can give ds for why this girl behaves like this other than maybe hshe doesn't understand. i appreciate thiere might be an issue with sn - there is a child with hfa in ds1 class so my kids do understand different children

so am i ethicaly allowed to ask teacher baout this child?

you can ask...... but the teachers may not say anything about her other than "we are working with her regarding her behaviour"

If its upsetting your child then speak to teacher but otherwise they may just think you are being nosey!

Perhaps you could go in and help with reading one morning and see for yourself.

Unless her behaviour directly impacts upon your ds I would be surprised if you would receive any information regarding the child. I help out in my boy's classroom as a substitute and can see the behaviour for myself, but even if my children have a run-in for want of a better phrase I am not allowed to know who caused the problem, just that it occured and was dealt with and how it was dealt with.

You can ask, but the teacher probably won't give you any iformation about that child.

It would probably be worth while talking to the teacher, though, but presenting it from the point of view of your own child's needs. Ask her exactly what you told us - how you can help your son understand her behaviour, particularly, as bbm said, if it upsets your son.

well he's being spat at and hit so it does affect him but he seems quite resigned to it
they don't want parent volunteers i have already offered so the only way to find out and part of it is me being plain nosy if i'm honest is to ask teacher

wish i could be totally above board but i just want to know what's going on in ds2's class and the reasons behind it

I don't see why you should't be above board and straightforward with the teacher. AFter all, it is your son's class and what goes on is important to him and to you. You're not asking for any personal info about her. Perhaps the school think that they are dealing well with whatever the issue is, and your quesitoning it would bring home to them the fact that there is or may be a problem brewing, and that they need to address the issue differently.

If it's affecting your son yes definately go and speak to the teacher. he has a right to go to school without having to put up with being spat on. sometimes I think it is easier for teachers to act if a few parents have raised a certain issue.

She's spitting on YOUR dc and hitting YOUR dc (amongst others I presume), so I would definitely bring it up with the teacher and discuss how this is being tackled. I would have done so first time I heard about it TBH

I think it would make life slightly easier if other parents did actually question a teacher about a particular childs behaviour, particularly if the child has SN. (Not suggesting this girl has} My ds sometimes behaves like the girl you describe, he has HFA, and it would make my life alot easier for me if other parents knew about his autism, rather than thinking it might be just down to naughtiness or bad parenting. If it's affecting your ds then I think you've got every right to question it, not sure you'd get any direct answers though.

You have every right to ask the teacher about how she/he is dealing with a child whose misbehaviour is affecting your child - indeed, as others have said, you should do so - but you don't have a right to know about any SN, social issues etc. to do with that child. I appreciate that knowing about such matters might help you, but other families do have a right to confidentiality.

Have you spoken to the badly behaved child's mother/father/carer? I'm not suggesting that you should have it out with her/him about their child's behaviour, but perhaps you might find out what you want to know in the course of an ordinary friendly social chat. Even if it's a case of ordinary naughtiness, it's not necessarily down to bad parenting. Some children just take longer than others to learn how to exercise their free will appropriately. And the mother/father/carer may be feeling very isolated and upset about the situation.

if your child is being spat at then yes you must speak to the teacher or head and ask what measures they are taking to ensure your child isn't being subjected to this any further.