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What "life changing" books should we be encouraging our young daughters to read?

31 replies

Figmentofmyimagination · 16/03/2015 17:51

I have an upper sixth DD about to head off (grades permitting) in October and one of my greatest pleasures is passing her stuff to read that might help her as she starts to figure out how things work - especially with an election coming up and her first vote. Recent suggestions that seem to have caught her imagination include:

  • Virginia Woolf - a room of her own
  • Owen jones - the establishment
  • Laura bates - everyday sexism

There are so many others. I'd be interested to hear what good thought-provoking books anyone else is passing to their DDs, especially the run up to their first vote!

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AtomicDog · 17/03/2015 10:00

Wifework
You know, before she actually gets attached.
Something by Will Hutton. The state we're in was seminal when I was at university but there's probably something more up to date.
Silent Spring?

TeddTess · 17/03/2015 10:19

All the Malcolm Gladwell books, Outliers, Blink etc... not just for girls but i wish i had read them before starting out. makes you realise what makes success.

ragged · 17/03/2015 10:48

I am thinking the L-Shaped-room. Says so much about where our society has come from.

Purpleflamingos · 17/03/2015 10:55

Prozac nation and girl interrupted. Little women and Emma/pride and prejudice just for the lifestyle contrast and historical perspective.

DrankSangriaInThePark · 17/03/2015 11:03

Testament of Youth, All Quiet on the Western Front, Moi Christiane F, Simone de Beauvoir, Things Can Only Get Better (if she's tending towards Labour voting Wink) Rejoice Rejoice (ditto) Jonathan Coe.

Enb76 · 17/03/2015 11:15

1984 - George Orwell
The Fountainhead - Ayn Rand
Primary Colours - Anonymous (Joe Klein)
Democracy - Henry Brook Adams
Hard Times - Charles Dickens

The Beauty Myth - Naomi Wolf
The Color Purple - Alice Walker
The Poisonwood Bible - Barbara Kingsolver
Heartburn - Nora Ephron

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Jackieharris · 17/03/2015 11:18

The road to Wigan pier
1984
Animal farm
The whole woman
The feminine mystique
The equality illusion
Living dolls
Queen bees & wannabes
Affluenza
Delia Smith's how to cook (taught me the basics when I was a student)
The Highway Code
The fragrant pharmacy
Some kind of generic 'rights' handbook explaining financial/housing/consumer/employment rights

Vicarscat · 17/03/2015 11:21

Solzhenitsyn. To understand the kind of suffering that some people go through. And so well written that it is easy to read.

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Sootgremlin · 17/03/2015 11:40

Nervous Conditions by Tsitsi Dangarembga. I read it and knew I would keep it for my daughter before I had one.

Coming of age tale of a young woman in Zimbabwe, it touches on a lot of subjects; different kinds of oppression, the postcolonial condition and the female condition, culture, family, hunger, eating disorders and the importance of the right kind of education for young women. Fantastic book. Inspiring in a very grounded, real way, sobering also.

Jackieharris · 17/03/2015 12:22

The diary of anne frank
The bell jar
Oranges are not the only fruit
I know why the caged bird sings
Of woman born
Go ask Alice

AllThePrettySeahorses · 17/03/2015 12:43

Woman by Natalie Angier
Gibbon's Decline And Fall by Sheri Tepper
Monstrous Regiment or Small Gods by Terry Pratchett (any of his books, really)

tormentil · 17/03/2015 12:46

Maya Angelou
Wild Swans - Jung Chang

gaslamp · 17/03/2015 13:14

Lean In

Figmentofmyimagination · 17/03/2015 18:12

I'm glad I started this thread. So many great suggestions - some good ones for me too! I've been meaning to read Blink. I've never read anything by Malcolm gladwell. She liked Chavs by Owen Jones. Estates by Lynsey Hanley was a bit of an eye opener.

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TheCountessofFitzdotterel · 17/03/2015 18:15

Beauty and Misogyny
Delusions of Gender
The Myth of Mars and Venus

mousmous · 17/03/2015 18:18

highway code
handmaids tale

Saracen · 19/03/2015 00:04

Gavin de Becker's "The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals That Protect Us from Violence"

Canyouforgiveher · 19/03/2015 00:13

I agree with Gavin de Beck's The Gift of Fear in terms of how to live on a practical level.

The books that influenced me most as a woman were not those with an explicit message but those written by women who were living and thinking lives as woman without much kowtowing to the mainstream patriarchy. So Testament of Youth (and Experience), all of Kate O Brien, Marilynne Robinson's Gilead, and Lila-two superb books that are light years ahead of many of the NYT-loved male authors who don't have a plot, don't have a voice and can't write a truly illuminating sentence.

Corygal · 19/03/2015 00:16

Sexual politics by Kate Millett, which is the most elegant arrangement of thought about feminism you could ever hope for.

Balance it with a lot of non depressing stuff - George Eliot, Jane Austen, the Brontes and Jeanette Winterson's autobiography. Everything in Granta. Everything by George Orwell, perfick for teens.

Ma Jian's stuff about China if you want the truth, fast, about the biggest country in the world.

Vogue to get your eye in.

Canyouforgiveher · 19/03/2015 00:43

anything at all by Margaret Forster.

Strawberrybubblegum · 24/03/2015 09:04

'Hidden Order - the economics of everyday life' by David Friedman. It's very readable, and after reading it a lot of things suddenly made sense regarding how the world works, and why people (especially politicians and business leaders) make certain decisions.

Poisonwoodlife · 24/03/2015 15:33

Ma Jian's stuff about China if you want the truth, fast, about the biggest country in the world. Sorry Corygal but if you want to learn the truth fast, from the perspective of an elite male intellectual, the sort who has been the elite of the patriarchal elite in one of the most unequal patriarchal cultures in the world for thousands of years. Do you know that when he is interviewed he has his English partner translate for him, though his English is fluent enough to be able to respond very quickly without translation if for instance it is suggested he is being rather arrogant assuming only he as an elite intellectual can speak for the people, men and women, of China, fair enough he wants a native English speaker to translate for him but the way he does it is actually the typical behaviour of a Chinese intellectual male through the centuries, and that is also manifested in his books. I am not saying don't read his books, just be aware of his, and Gao Xinjiang's (the Nobel prize winner) perspective, and their particular brand of "look at moi" misogyny, and don't get caught up at looking at some Chinese authors through western rose tinted glasses because of their western crowd pleasing politics.

We do need our daughters to learn about the rest of the world but also to question the perspective, both ours and others.

If you want woman's perspectives on China, Eileen Chang (Ziang Ailing, though she was christened with a western name). Stories written during the war when all the male intellectuals left Shanghai and she and a group of women were able to write their own stories for an audience of women in a time of great trauma, about war, modernity and their experience of traditional patriarchy. She is regarded as one of the greatest authors by the Chinese diaspora and wrote Lust Caution, which Ang Lee filmed. Some of her stories are deeply moving accounts of a woman's experience in traditional China "The Golden Cangue". www.adgo.com.hk/eileen/books/eng/12/01.html

Laura Esquivel - Like Water for Chocolate. Magical Realism set in Mexico, for women. Read and then look at the work of Frida Kahlo in a new light

And a book to help you contemplate the meaning of life "The Bridge of San Luis Rey" by Thornton Wilder, the one this quote comes from ""But soon we will die, and all memories of those five will have left Earth, and we ourselves shall be loved for a while and forgotten. But the love will have been enough; all those impulses of love return to the love that made them. Even memory is not necessary for love. There is a land of the living and a land of the dead, and the bridge is love. The only survival, the only meaning."

And of course The Poisonwood Bible Wink

Russettbella1000 · 24/03/2015 22:46

...Female Eunuch, the women's room, memoirs of a survivor