Should you start parents evening with this question?

[Nerf]

So, X, do you think are a good boy, hmm?

I read the opening post and assumed that you were asking the teacher!

My DS (7) is constantly being pulled up for minor behaviour issues (has suspected ADD), I don't take him to parent's evening anymore as his self esteem doesn't need the battering...

Yes, I think sixth form.

Re discussing the more complex things-I agree with Hakluyt they would be better communicated in depth in a separate meeting. But of course, reference to them in a parents' evening meeting may be unavoidable.

One of my DCs is pretty straightforward academically. I go to parents' evening for him but my younger one is v complicated with SEN. I never bother with parents' evening for him as I meet his teacher every half term for an in depth discussion. This will be much more difficult at secondary school.

OP you sound as though you've all been through the wringer. Parents' evening on top of all that can be awful. My DM attended our parents' evening a fortnight after my DF has died. The news had not been circulated amongst staff and she broke down. Some schools are crap at sharing even essential information.

Hak, I don't mean introduce them i mean have a frank discussion and refer to them. Dd knows he has asd but doesn't really like it being mentioned. With him there it's really hard. As I said thread another day just cried during parents evening when there was a hint of being poor at maths. Made the meeting utterly pointless tbh.

Barring exceptional circumstances, which some of the ones you are describing seem to be, Nerf, I expect my children to take responsibility for their learning much earlier than 6th form..........

Yes same here but I do think a conversation away from the child can be part of that. The teachers feedback d a lily don't they in the way they interact a d instruct the students.