Very concerned that ds's teacher is not coping. What do I do?

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Ds is in year 4 and has always been in a fairly stable class with good teachers.
He has a new teacher and to be honest I am very worried.
A few times I have turned up to pick up and he looks really stressed and says things to me "like they won't listen", "they are so hyper" etc etc
Tonight when I picked ds he was sitting on a desk on his own.
I asked him if everything was ok.
He said "I have had anything and this afternoon I have let them do what they want. They have all been swapping desks etc".
I asked if ds was a problem and he said no that he was fine.
He was fed up, had asked them 6 times to close their books and put them away and they didn't listen.
So tomorrow he is calling the head in and they are losing their playtime.
He is always calling the head in and it worries me the lack of control he has over them all.
What do I do? Am worried as ds always has been keen to learn and I am anxious it will hinder his learning.

Poor you. No experience of school at all, but I think I would at the very least have a quiet word with the head teacher in a friendly manner. Apart from anything else I work in mental health services and loads of teachers suffer with stress and depression and its much better if someone gets support earlier rather than later if they are struggling. Its a demanding job and you need your ds to have a teacher that is doing OK. The head might find it easier to approach the issue if they have specific concerns to raise.

You need to explain your worries to the head. It sounds as if the poor teacher needs help, and I doubt he will ask for help himself.

I feel bad "grassing" on him iykwim

He is a lovely, lovely man. I just think that is going to be part of his downfall

do not interfere is my advice. If he is ' always calling the Head in' then the head will know exactly what he is like as a teacher, far more than you do - after all you don't observe his lessons.

As Donnie said, I don't think you need to get involved at the moment. The head and other senior members of staff will be well aware of any problems. Teachers should have regular observations, performance management meetings etc and if the school is generally good in terms of behaviour management, then they'll be aware of any difficulties the teacher is having in that area

hiya
we had this exact same thing last year with dd's yr 5 teacher. She was in tears in the playground one morning because a mum told her "if you can't fng control them you shouldn't be teaching them". She told me there were only 5 girls in the class who get on with their work and do what they are asked, thankfully dd was one of them. DD also spent most of last year going down to the office and asking if the head could come to 5W as they were out of control and Teacher needed him!.I have no advice other than dd survived and the other teachers had no real problems when they took the class. Hopefully your teacher will find his feet and learn to assert himself. The school wouldn't let him sink, would they.

Is he newly qualified, BH? Or has he changed which age he's teaching?

We had this problem in year 4 too! We got to the point where I looked around at other schools, but my dd wasn't keen to leave because she was very settled and happy. The problem sorted itself out in the end with the teacher leaving at Christmas after just one term. I really do sympathise because it is very difficult to know what to do. We spoke to the headteacher who was incredibly unsympathetic and quite hostile towards us which was very upsetting. It was quite a relief when the lady left.

I too don't really have a solution to your problem, we were lucky in that we live in an area where there are lots of other schools (but they were all full!). Moving schools seemed to me like the very last option available, but I later found out that a number of parents were looking at exactly the same solution. However, it is very unsettling and it may be best just to ride out the storm and may be do a bit of extra work at home?