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Would you think it was bad manners if...

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frogs · 10/10/2006 12:27

... your Y7, just-left-primary child went back to her old school on a secondary school inset day for her brother's class assembly, feeling all big and grown-up, and the headteacher completely blanked her on two separate occasions?

I must admit I had assumed that people would come up to dd1 and ask her how she was getting on at secondary school, blah blah, but the head just completely ignored her, although he obviously had seen her. I know he doesn't like me, but you'd have thought he could get over himself for a child.

And this is a small, one-form entry primary school, most people go to the same church, and the school bills itself as a small caring community where your child will be cherished as an individual.

Humph.

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motherinferior · 10/10/2006 12:28

I hope he gets a really itchy bottom. Preferably while standing in front of the whole school.

ScareyCaligulaCorday · 10/10/2006 12:29

Yes unbelievably bad manners.

What a crap example to set to your child.

southeastastralplain · 10/10/2006 12:31

v bad manners! why doesn't he like you

PinkTulips · 10/10/2006 12:32

thats so mean! we were always made a huge fuss of when we went back to help with sports days and stuff.

what a horrible man to be in charge of a roimaryschool, he's supposed to be an example for all those kids

Greensleeves · 10/10/2006 12:32

What a prick. Some head teachers are so up themselves, they really think their little empire is the whole world.

SNORcacKLE · 10/10/2006 12:41

frogs isn't this the school that never even congratulated your dd on her grammar place? I suspect the head may be very anti selective schooling, but it doesn't excuse his behaviour at all.

mell2 · 10/10/2006 12:43

What a let down for dd1. My dd (yr 9) loves going back to primary school. She'll be sad when ds leaves this year and she won't have an excuse.

Humph exactly!

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frogs · 10/10/2006 12:45

Oh good, obviously not just me being paranoid then.

He doesn't like us because we have over the years made various noisy fusses wrt dd1's needs not being met and her being unhappy at school. The school have lied to us about dd1's needs, and about the provision that they were allegedly making (or not, generally). Head told me not to apply to a selective school for dd1 as it wouldn't suit her, and was then obviously more than a little miffed when she got the highest mark of all the applicants in the entrance exam. And is happy as Larry, despite her piles of homework.

So there is a history to it. But still, you'd think as a teacher your wish to see each child happy and fulfilled would overrule the fact that you didn't like the parents. Dd1 was also the only child (apart from a couple who didn't get a school place) who wasn't called into the head's study and congratulated on getting into her first choice senior school.

Tosser. Are you surprised we're trying to move house so I can put dd2 through a different school?

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2shoescreepingthroughblood · 10/10/2006 12:45

very bad manners.

mumblechum · 10/10/2006 12:47

Not just an itchy bottom, raging, uncontrollable diahorrea (how tf do you spell that?). Wazzock.

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frogs · 10/10/2006 12:51

Crossed posts, snorkle.

But dd1 is so happy these days. She said to me last week, "Oh Mum, I never knew school could be like this!"

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SNORcacKLE · 10/10/2006 12:55

Oh I did remember that right then. A wise teacher once said to me that some teachers feel threatened when they first run across a child that is brighter than they are. I'd move house if you can - if he can't get past that he's really in the wrong job.

SNORcacKLE · 10/10/2006 12:56

glad she's happy now frogs - every child needs and deserves to feel valued at school imo.

HallgerdaLongcloak · 10/10/2006 13:12

Yes, that's very rude. I don't think my children's primary school exactly approved of DS1's choice of secondary school, but he's been back a few times picking up DS2 from after school activities and plenty of school staff, including the Head, have come and asked him how he's getting on, and have asked me when he's not been there.

lemonaid · 10/10/2006 13:28

I think you can safely assume that this man doesn't have a wish to see each child happy and fulfilled. Tell your DD not to waste any more emotional energy on him and concentrate instead on continuing to prove him spectacularly wrong. Or on putting itching powder in his underpants, whatever appeals...

Honestly, would you even want the approval of a numpty like that?

roisin · 10/10/2006 19:25

What a waste of space of a Head

But I'm delighted to hear how well your dd is getting on at secondary - that's fantastic news.

lucy5 · 10/10/2006 19:26

Humph, i agree with you, your poor dd!

PrettyCandles · 10/10/2006 19:30

An ill-mannered, pompous idiot. If the man had two braincells to rub together he'd be trying to reflect some of the credit of your dd's academic success.

I visited my old primary several times, as my sister had started there when I left, and generally got mixed reactions from staff - oddly enough it wasn't necessarily those that I had had good relations with that were welcoming and interested, and vice-versa.

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