****FOR ALL THE MUMS OF BULLIED CHILDREN****

[kimi]

I have sat down with my hobnob and drink and had a quick look at MN and am so sad to see so many threads about children being bullied.
There are threads in many sections and so i feel alot of people are going through the same thing and missing each others posts and the great advice on them.
I think this is a subjuct we could write about forever and not run out of things to talk about.

I have two sons DS1 age 10 and DS2 age 6. DS1 has been bullied by the same child for the past 4 years and it is heartbreaking.
I have seen the teachers, the head , the goveners, tryed to change his school, taken him out of school and involved the police. I sometimes feel like im banging my head on a brick wall, but there is help (even when the school are useless).
Some great advice on these sights.
www.helpstopbullying.com
www.bulling.co.uk
www.childline.org.uk
and if you google there are many many more.
Also if we keep this thread open we might be able to support each other a little bit on the days it gets too much, even if its just a rant.

I'm so sorry to hear your ds is having problems and for such an awfully long time. My ds was bullied a bit a couple of years back by some kid who called him racist names and on one occasion took a flying kick at the back of ds's head. Our head was really good, this little shit had been bulling other people as well and eventually he left (don't think he was excluded, tho'). If it's been going on for that long, I'm sure you've tried all the usual avenues. Does you ds do any martial arts? Our ds does karate, not because he was bullied but because dh & I have both done it in the past & ds loves it as much as we did. It makes a massive difference to self esteem to know that, if you felt like it, you could kick the shit out of anyone! (ducks to avoid p.c. parents recommending "sharing circle"). My son has never used martial arts in a fight situation, but having the reputation helps, imo. I can only imagine how heartbreaking it must be for you when your ds comes home unhappy. If nothing else, take comfort in the fact that next year, hopefully he & the bully will be in separate secondaries.

Thanks mumblechum, DH and i both did taekwondo and i have tryed to teach DS1 to block, but some of the highlights of the bulling have been trying to push DS down the stairs, holding him under water at a swimming lesson, kicking him in the leg that he had 9 sticthes in 2 days before not to mention the constant name calling, and excluding from everyday playground/class life and lovely fresh bruises every day, at the moment its eye drops for a smack in the eye that we are having fun with.
So hoping that they do go to different schools for year 7 but no way of knowing where that little shit is going.
The mother (who truly is one of the most stupid women you will ever meet ) is so far in denile about her child that i may as well speak to my own arse! And the father is a thug who drags his knuckles along to threaten people so the boy really has no chance in life.

Jeez. You really seem to have drawn the short straw there. What did the police say? Surely these are quite serious assaults..

Police are passing it on o the child protection team as it has gone on for so long.
Been to endless meetings at the school, but the other kids mother works in the school and he can do no wrong