Hi all
You may remember me posting last year about my son having his nose broken by a lad at school, and the police involvement, and also about my daughter being made to get changed in front of the boys (she's almost 12 and developing her body).
Anyway, we moved house, and subsequently schools. The children both go to the same middle school, which has an excellent, outstanding even, reputation.
There is a girl who lives in the same village and goes to the school also. From the day we moved in she has m,ade snide comments and nasty remarks about our house being SO small (it's a 3 bed semi), how she has a pony and we have nothing, how her dad earns £100k and we only live in a rented house etc. I explained to DD that this girl is just jealous, as, whilst she may have all the trappings of a big house, and a pony etc there is obvilusly something lacking in her life. There is no one at home when she gets back from school for instance, and not a lot of affection there.
Things have become a lot more serious this term though. She chants 'whore' and 'prostitute' at my daughter (which resulted in me having to explain what the words meant), shoved DD into a wall, marking her back, pinched her, emptied a bottle of water over her head, took her pencil case and threw it over someone's garden fence...the list goes on.
Anyway, DD has reported these thiongs to the school and it continues. I took DD to the other girl's house so that they could sort it out amicably and was met with, literally, a 'talk to the hand cos the face ain't listening'. Her father came to the door and I explained, in a very pleasant manner, that the girls were just trying to sort out a spat, and his daughter told him in no uncertain terms that he wasn't welcome and to go away! he replied 'Oh name, I'll have to smack your bottom if you speak to me like that' FFS.
So anyway, after the pinching and shoving day, DD had enough and hit this girl back. I don't condone kids hitting BUT nothing else seemed to get through to this kid, the school, her parents, reasoning and quite frankly I'm surprised it took her so long! And in all honesty, if someone called me a whore I would bloody well deck them too!
The mother came marching down here last night shouting the odds, saying it was unprovoked. I explained that this kid had systematically hit and pinched DD and called her a whore repeatedly and she said, shockingly, that verbal bullying was acceptable, as was pinching!!! I was flabbergasted. Now anyone who knows anything about bullying knows that verbal abuse can be more damaging than physical.
I've written to the school this morning, so am expecting a phone call today. DD wanted me to take her to school, instead of going on the bus with this kid. I am reluctant to do this yet, as that would be playing right into this little cow's hands.
I can't believe it's happening again. I can only assume it's jealousy, as DD is very very pretty, intelligent and popular whereas this kid is overweight, and doesn't have many friends and is obviously allowed to get away with murder at home. Anyway, what else can I do?