Private tutor KS2 cash only

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My child's tutor has requested cash payment only. Is this normal? I know it's nice to get a bit of cash now and then but it's not always convenient to remember to go to the cash point. What do you think?

Tamer, do you think that is any way to carry out a professional relationship? Surely if paying by cash is a problem for the OP, being straightforward and honest about that would be better, followed by a normal, professional discussion regarding changing to a payment agreement which would be acceptable to both parties. Lying is simply disrespectful.

I thought OP didn't have the cash I don't. I rarely have much in my purse. I would do a bank transfer. What is wrong with that? I am not lying.

OP can't always get to the cashpoint, no one uses cheques and it assumes the tutor can get to a bank- therefore bank transfer is the obvious solution. I can't see where lying or being unprofessional comes into it.

The tutor has made it clear she would like to be paid in cash, if the OP has a problem with that, she should discuss this with the tutor, not have the lady turn up and then say, "oh, sorry I can't pay you, I didn't get chance to go to the bank". You wouldn't go to a market where they only take cash and say, "I don't have any cash on me, but I'll just take these goods and pay you later by bank transfer".

If the problem is that you want proof of payment, ask for a receipt, so there is a paper trail.

I used to be paid in cash for work I did, but always gave a receipt and declared all my earnings. This was a while ago, before internet banking, and being paid by cheque was a real pain because of the difficulty of paying cheques in. If I was in the same situation now, I would ask to be paid by BACs or similar.

I pay my dc's music teacher by bank transfer every half term, which works well for both of us.

I wasn't suggesting that she just turns up without cash! You appear to be putting a lot of words into my mouth. I can see the tutor doesn't want to bother with cheques and getting to the bank, so she ought to see that others have the same problem in getting hold of the cash. Phone her up beforehand- say that cash will be difficult- can you set up a bank transfer?
I can't see why she wouldn't.

A market is generally within yards of a cash point so is not a good analogy.

Just say you don't have cash and do bank transfer

Doesn't really suggest any prior upfront discussion with the lady does it?

There is also an assumption (generally) that any cash she is receiving is not going into the bank. I know whenever I am paid in cash, it still gets paid into the bank (I'm not saying she does or does not do this). However, some people insist on paying by cash for various reasons, even though this is less convenient (and less safe). On the other hand, when people are consistently late paying by bank transfer, as others have said, it can be a pain and slightly embarrassing to chase it up.

It goes both ways and there has to be a little bit of understanding and as with any relationship, there needs to be a bit of give and take on both sides.

I tutor a lot and mainly take cash, only 2 tutees pay cheque.

I prefer to deal in cash as saves going to bank (work ft and don't get chance to go) and I like using cash as it's easier to monitor spending.

I do pay tax on it though.

I am sorry, I didn't realise I was supposed to detail the entire conversation! Obviously you discuss it first and put it politely. However I think it fair enough that if she finds getting to a bank difficult she appreciates that you do too.

I didn't suggest you need to detail the entire conversation, but "discuss it first and put it politely" is somewhat different from, "just v tell her". No?

I'm glad we agree it should involve polite discussion, not "telling her" though. .

I paid a tutor cash. It was much easier for us both.

Is she asking up front before tutoring or after. If after I won't be suspicious. Before then maybe be a tiny bit suspicious. I prefer credit card as you can trace where your money has gone unlike cash. She's probably trying to avoid tax.

if she's retired and on a pension, she's asking for cash to avoid having to do self assessment for tax. i reckon it's the paperwork she's trying to avoid rather than paying the tax (although they are one and the same!)

I must add that my friend who is a tutor deals with all manner of flaky parents. They cancel with a moment's notice, or they are out when she arrives. Wouldn't trust them to set up a standing order or do a bank transfer.

I used to only take cash but this was purely because I have young children and my bank was not on any commute routes. If people wanted to pay by cheque, I'd be happy to accept it but always warned them that my visits to the bank were sporadic and sometimes I'd not visit mine for up to three months (combination of having young DCs, supply teaching and tutoring).
I've recently opened a bank account on my most frequent commute route. Much better. I don't like to accept bank transfers though as I personally find internet banking a bit fiddly and had an uncomfortable conversation with a tutee's parent who claimed to have paid in though it was not visible.
Incidentally, I've always 'done' my self-assessment.

We don't use a tutor but our ds has music lessons, so similar arrangement. We pay by bank transfer every half term, and I expect to pay even if we cancel the lesson (although the teacher is very good and tries to fit him into another slot that week). I would hate to have to find the right amount of cash each week