Seriously upset /distraught

[Upsetmum1]

My daughters schiol.phoned me today to say they had called social services as she had a bruise on her eye! Apparently when asked she said her dad did it with the tv gadget but in reality my husband threw the tv gadget at the dog who was misbehaving and it bounced off and hit her now the school.phoned social services before even talki g to mw and now i have them.phoning me and my husband my husband is distraught and they wont twll us what is happening next! Im literally sat waiting for a phine call im seriously upset and dont know what to do! What will happen next.help.please .... ;(

Firstly, don't panic.

The school has an obligation to notify SS of an injury that "appears" to be deliberate.

Explain what really happened and they will question your dd who will agree.

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I really, really don't want to be the bitch who piles in when you're at the end of your tether, but...erm...your husband throws things at his dog? Was the dog hurt?
If an adult is going to throw things in temper then I don't think that's good, tbh.

For an item on a ricochet to cause a bruise suggests it was thrown with considerable force. That might be what is causing the concern.

You really need to stay calm now.

Is there someone you can ring at the school, simply to ask what they expect will happen next and when?

It must have hit her hard to cause a bruise. He might not have directed his throw at her but it's astounding that he's throwing anything at anyone (I include the dog in that).

There's the concern. Any adult who demonstrates such temper and 'force' that it results in someone else's bruising is a problem.

Please engage with the school/social services to reassure yourself and your DD. If you understand the process and what's likely to happen it might help you deal with it.

Sorry you're going thru this, OP.

I knew someone would harp on about the dog (who he missed anyway).

lljkk, as there are proven links between adults who abuse animals and those who abuse children, I think that SS might be more interested in this man throwing stuff at the dog than you are.

OP - genuine question - what was the dog doing that your DH thought chucking the remote at it would stop?

years ago when I arrived at school with a black eye I was called in to meet the deputy head on arrival
because my mum had phoned them to say I'd walked into a cupboard
"so, what was the fight about" was the question.
Deputy Head and I worked out a strategy - end of

I know schools have to notify SS but its all so OTT nowadays

on the other hand OP : your DH needs to learn to control his temper ASAP

I was going to say a simple mistake, I am sure all you need to do is explain, but when I read your account of the accident happened I am not sure it's that simple.

If your husband throws things hard enough at an animal to cause a bruise when ricocheting, then it's not a very farfetched idea that witnessing this behaviour might not be good for the child of the household (even if not accidentally struck by the object).

It is also unlikely to be very good for the dog.

SS have a legal duty to investigate. They will interview you, all your DC's and your DH. Frankly I suspect they will do nothing further, assuming this was an isolated out of character incident, they may suggest your DH attend an anger management course but ultimately this is unlikely.

Hmm... my very mild-mannered DH sometimes throws and kicks things in temper.

HOWEVER, he has NEVER thrown anything AT someone - including two naughty dogs! He normally just puts them into their kennel for time-out, and I'm the one telling them off. When DH does throw things (like his wallet!), he actually aims it a place where nobody is in... even if he's throwing a fit.

I don't think it's unreasonable for SS to look into it. Your DH was aiming at a living being. Just cooperate with them...

The school have to talk to SS and SS will have to talk to you. Calm down and stop worrying too much, just explain to them exactly what happened and as long as there are no other concerns then they will probably just talk to your DH about his temper because as others have said, throwing something that hard at a dog might be a cause for concern. If there are other concerns or they aren't sure what happened the next step would be for them to come visit you or arrange for you, DH and DD to go to their offices and talk through what happened so they can get a better idea of what's happened, then they will write up whats happened and discuss with you what happens from there.

Chances are your DD just didn't explain what happened very well and it will all be fine.