I well understand that. In the villages my family now live in, though schools are 3 miles away, there are only two buses a day that wind around the lanes, so next to no independence for my nieces and nephews, the ones that are grown up aren't even in this country anymore. Though it was my own fault, I got into a direct grant grammar (and quite "elite" it was too, even a woman cabinet minister amongst it's alumni), and not the local grammar or secondary modern, school was 10 miles away, and I faced the same situation, the bus took 1hr 20mins didn't leave until 6pm, and the last one went at 10pm. Where I grew up is stunningly gorgeously beautiful, it has inspired novels, romantic heroes and some of the most sublime poetry ever written and though even at 17 I got that, and I could keep a pony for next to nothing and gallop across it, I still came to totally and utterly hate living there and all that I missed out on with my friends in the big city, and was desperate to get to any sort of bright lights.
Part of the reason we live where we do is that all my DDs friends are within a couple of miles, they can walk to their evenings out, or use any manner of public transport or even night buses . And they have so much on their doorstep. (Actually scrap the nearness of nightclubs and night buses and the not really being able to sleep properly until 5 in the morning
) but overall I think where we live gives them a better quality of life, if not me.
But passedgo I totally agree with you the situation on school place provision in London is scandalous. In our borough we have a high proportion of state church schools so it isn't just that you have to buy an exorbitantly expensive flat or house, you also have to go and sit in a pew on Sundays or even think ahead and get your child baptised before six months, even clean the church and it's silver. They have even got the middle classes skivvying 