We have just had the upsetting experience of our youngest son (7) losing 2 permanent front teeth at school, combined with my husband's angry reaction when he went to collect him - the message from school said he had chipped a tooth. DH found him with huge hole in his mouth, huge bulging bump under his eye and exploded with wrath. Not tactful and not how I would have done it, but exactly what I would expect of him. Very concerned to find out how it happened, school kept saying not their fault etc. We had an interview with the head teacher who was absent at the time. We had a different story from the one she had (2 games in the same space, it and football, collision and wham!was what our two sons had said, fell over while playing football was what she had been told). This was talked about quite calmly, and we proposed that better system of separating quick games was needed. She seemed more concerned with making us feel bad about DHs reaction and getting an apology. When it wasn't forthcoming, she told him how unpopular he was (he is usually very reserved).
I feel very upset about this - partly because my husband has obviously upset a lot of people that I have got to know quite well from helping in scvhool, partly because they think horrible things about him.