Tasmania - "I do think that in those cases, it's not the school that is the problem. It's the HOME. And that's the real issue at hand. Because if everyone had motivated parents like there seem to be so many on this thread (regardless of our different opinions )... we may not have this problem."
What you say has usually been my assumption, however it doesn't apply to my DS (7 in Y3). DS is at or just below average, he is young and immature, hates reading, writing and the like, he finds it all hard and he is not listing and concentrating well at school.
At home we are both educated, we value education, we read to DC every day, since Y1/2 I supported DS with maths at home, we visit museums ... and do losts of stuff, TV/screen time is limited and selected, both DC are fully bilingual.
I expected DS to do well at school, but he is not, he is struggling in every way. 