Dealing with teacher re. learning style/speed

[aDADinFRANCE]

I'm new on here, so "hello" and hoping I'm asking my question in the right place! I'm a father of 5-year old twin girls, and we live in France. The education set-up is a bit different over here, as my girls have already been in the school system - 'Maternelle' - for two years, and, as each school year passes, things have naturally moved from play and socialisation to more structured, formal education. Both of my girls are doing fine, but one of them tends to worry about not being as 'quick' as the others, and she becomes frustrated and sad if/when she feels she doesn't achieve 100%, every time, all of the time (things are quite old fashioned and regimented in the school, lovely and small and "villagey" as it is)....My question is this, how do I approach the teacher about different learning styles and speeds, without challenging the teacher about her teaching style, or suggesting the school system is an assembly line for robots, or coming across as being 'over sensitive' (me or my daughter!). Any thoughts, suggestions, experiences, anecdotes would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!

My twins are now 8.5, and the girl has a much slower processing speed than the boy. In a test with unlimited time, she might end up scoring nearly ad high as he does, because she is careful, thorough and accurate, but everything takes her much longer.

However, within the last year and a half, this has improved dramatically. She now completes pieces of work within the time given, and I generally don't feel as though she is struggling to keep up all the time.

I don't know how you would tell whether it's a developmental lag that will resolve itself with time, or something different.

Things that have helped my daughter are: being in a different class from her brother to minimise comparison and finding talents and gifts of her own e.g. music and art.

Hopefully someone familiar with the French system will be able to help you with how to approach the school.