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A totally crazy idea?

27 replies

abovetheparapet · 10/09/2012 14:05

Dual registration for reception age child whose parents can't agree on a school/what's best for DC.

3 days in local state primary, 2 days in independent school.

Assuming schools agree (big, huge assumption), what do you think?

OP posts:
margerykemp · 10/09/2012 14:07

about the craziest thing ive heard all year!

Floralnomad · 10/09/2012 14:08

I can't see any state school going along with that arrangement even if the Independent one did. Besides which it would probably be really unsettling for your DC .

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abovetheparapet · 10/09/2012 14:09

Thought it might be!

OP posts:
TheApprentice · 10/09/2012 14:09

Thats madness. They quite possibly use very different methods and schemes for teaching phonics/reading/early maths etc and the poor child would be so confused. I doubt whether any school would agree to it anyhow.

Floralnomad · 10/09/2012 14:10

Forgot to add with my experience of independents you would still be paying the full amount because you are taking a place that they could offer to another child

imnotmymum · 10/09/2012 14:11

That is bonkers. Full stop. What is the conundrum exactly one against state school per se or you have a great state school nearby or is it family tradition.

clam · 10/09/2012 14:15

So, you would consider this idea, which is so far off the Richter scale of crazy that it doesn't even register, because you and your other half can't agree?
Great parenting job, there! Hmm

MirandaWest · 10/09/2012 14:16

Really don't see how that would work at all.

PoppadomPreach · 10/09/2012 14:18

So the child gets messed around because the parents aren't grown up enough to make a decision? Madness.

MrsRobertDuvallHasRosacea · 10/09/2012 14:19

How on earth would it work?

I've seen some things on MN but never that.

EdMcDunnough · 10/09/2012 14:19

No. Don't do it.

I think try one school, and by all means if it doesn't seem right within the first year (or even two) then change to the other one.

But don't even think about switching your child around midweek - it will really disrupt their experience.

Sorry! Smile

imnotmymum · 10/09/2012 14:22

Plus if I was the Head of either school I would not agree anyhow and I doubt it would happen.

annh · 10/09/2012 14:30

Totally crazy idea. Even if you got the two schools to agree to it (unlikely), the poor child would have to deal with two different sets of uniform, PE kit, different rules, timetable, possibly reading schemes etc etc. Think about it - if school A did music on a Tues when child was the other school but School B did music (for example) on Thurs when child was the other school, there is every possibility that the child would end up missing whole chunks of the school curriculum because they were never in the right place at the right time. How would they ever complete school projects (would they be expected to produce two Egyptian models for example), which school's Christmas production would they take part in, the list goes on?

imnotmymum · 10/09/2012 14:32

come on OP I am dying to hear your problem. Also have you never discussed this before having children.

Vagaceratops · 10/09/2012 14:38

Absolute madness and completely childish.

Both parents need to grow up.

Poppylovescheese · 10/09/2012 14:51

Total madness and entirely unfair on the child.

imnotmymum · 10/09/2012 15:02

OP come back or was this just to open up a state vs indie debate

sailorsgal · 10/09/2012 15:23

Does anyone really discuss it before you have children though. I know we didn't.

crazy idea and wouldn't work OP. You will need to compromise for the sake of your dc.

CailinDana · 10/09/2012 15:28

Having been a teacher I can say with 99% confidence that a state school would never agree to this is in a million years. They don't like children being away for one day even for a good reason, so why on earth would they agree to a child being away two days every single week? Plus the child would have an absolutely horrible time.

shushpenfold · 10/09/2012 15:28

Entirely bonkers!

imnotmymum · 10/09/2012 16:02

well not discuss it exactly but if polarising views surely would have been bought up before. Do they go to nursery OP?

AChickenCalledKorma · 10/09/2012 16:40

Even if the schools agreed (which they wouldn't), the child's education would suffer horribly. There would be no co-ordination between the schools' curricula and the child would constantly be missing stuff they need to learn.

So basically, by refusing to compromise on "what's best", the parents would be ending up with "absolutely the worst". Beyond bonkers.

tiggytape · 10/09/2012 18:58

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eatyourveg · 10/09/2012 19:33

Actually to put a spanner in the works here - having a dual placement is not that unusual if you are talking about kids with sn. Part of the week in sn school which is not always in your home town and part of the week at your local primary. I assume though that as you have not mentioned it, your dc don't have any additional needs?

What exactly would be the benefit though for your dc to dual up with an independent? What you may want as a parent and what is best for the child is not always the same thing. Go with the state for reception, if you are still in two minds, have your dc's name down for starting Y1 at the independent and only move them at the end of the year if the state school fails them.

mumzy · 10/09/2012 22:07

You need to get a grip and make a decision. Lesson is you can't have everything and life is a ompromise