Can't resist this, and it's kind of an update for those who know me and the problems I've had with DS and his last school.
Briefly after a hideous term before Christmas and massive disagreement with git of headteacher we made the decision to move DS to another school from January (he is in Y2) and that also meant DD started at this school in Reception rather than the other school. Parents evening tonight and OMG!!!!!
DS is doing so well, teacher doesn't see the point of an IEP as 'he doesn't really need one does he? Oh, apart from his academic needs of course as I've put him forward as gifted in everything academic so he'll get it for that'.
Can you imagine my face? How I nearly kissed the teacher and my heart swelled with pride and joy? DS is such a different boy, happy, content working hard (there are PAGES of work in his books and he is on to new ones already despite only having new exercise books in January! This is a boy who would barely write 5 lines before) and I can actually read his writing!!!!! we still have ups and downs of emotional outbursts, but they are dealt with at school, not brought home, and DS is so much calmer when he leaves school knowing that things are over and done and not held agains him.
We did the right thing! 
and ya boo sucks to horrid headteacher and nasty school (incidentally another child in Reception has just been withdrawn from that school because of the attitude of the headteacher 
).
And DD is doing really well too, making friends, settling in, doing well with her reading and numbers. My little sunshine
My heart is full tonight 
Thank you to everyone who listened to my worries and gave such support, advice and love to us. You were fab!!!
All the love in the world to you - the Wedgies