sashh - oh yes - I am certain that my DS would be better off at another school/college, but he would drop out rather than move. Over the past (difficult) year I have tried to get him to think of going somewhere else but it's not something he will even talk about. And due to his mental health issues I have had to back off. And that what makes the School's treatment of him so appalling. It's difficult for him to be there, but he can't face even thinking about going somewhere else.
EvilTwins - I think the School are being so difficult because we continue to challenge their treatment of DS in terms of support and the withdrawal of the Maths tuition. We will not agree with them when they insist they are acting in DS's best interests. We challenged their view that DS was incapable of achieving a good grade in Maths - and we proved he could with support. DS was even been told last Sep that he should give his goal to study engineering at Uni. Which is why we are concerned about them providing an appropriate academic reference for DS. Then as sashh says there's the School's concern about league table position - DS is at a grammar school that is in the top 10 for state school A level results. ( I think they may be at the very top this year... )
But my huge question is how to get the School to fulfil its responsibilities towards DS. We worked our way through the complaints procedure and insisted the School should hold a Governing Body Complaints Appeal Panel. They found in our favour and said DS should be allowed to do a Y14. Head said he wouldn't follow this. We put in a claim of disability discrimination to the tribunal. On receiving it, the Head then said DS could return to do A2 Maths. ( Our claim is still being considered by the tribunal because there is a question over whether it can be heard 'out of time').
So we are now in a position with School beginning next week with DS only being allowed to study A2 Maths with no SEN support, and not being allowed to go to lessons for modules in his other 2 subjects that he needs to retake. He is an 'external' student with no form tutor or other mentor, which he needs. Actually, DS isn't meant to go in til 18th Sep - the School taught him A2 Maths for a fortnight last year before they withdrew it, and he's not allowed to repeat that tuition! It's entirely inappropriate for Ds to start 2 weeks after his (new) peers given his social and communication difficulties.
We have again contacted the chair of governors but he hasn't come back to us, bar a 'holding' response. I'm unsure what to do now... Is there any scope for contacting OFSTED regarding SEN at the School - though I know they can't get involved with DS's personal situation.