Bullying - DS in reception been hit frequently by a SN child

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Can anyone give me advice as to what to do and how to talk to DS about this.

He comes home frequently talking about how another cild has been hitting & hurting him. This other boy has SN - not sure what, and is considerably bigger and heavier than my DS. Not sure how well he can be reasoned with.

I have talked to the head and teacher about it, and they are observing the situation and talking to DS about it, but he doesn't like his teacher knowing...don't know if he is embarassed by it.

I can't tell DS to ignore it or hit back...what can I do as I find it very distressing that he should encounter this so frequently, especially in his 1st term at school. I want him to settle and enjoy it and not be put of by the experience.

sorry 100% of the time!

My heart goes out to everyone affected by this thread. I agree with Jimjams and steppmum 100%. Inclusion can only work if there is enough support for the child, and JJ is right, this often happens only because the parents know the system, and have the stamina to insist that the support is given. I teach a boy who is high functioning autistic. He has 100% 1:1 support in lessons , and is benefiting very much from being in the school mixing with nt peers. Every is benefiting in this case. I teach another boy with 'serous' ADHD. He has no support. Poor lad is off the wall most of the time. Frustrated, unsupported to the degree that he needs (whn he is my class I have 28 to teach and can't give him the level of help and support that he needs), he learns nothing or almost nothing in lessons, and neither do the rest of the class because the degree of disruption that happens (note I am not blaming the boy is any of this). I am worried for his safely in the lab, as he rocks and head butts things. I also worry for the other children in the lab. At the moment we have removed him from lessons to work with a quiet sixth form group. He is learning 100% more than he does in the lesson with his peers. They also learn more when he is not in the lesson. There are 28 children in the class who are now better off, and this is counting the boy with ADHD.

If he had the support in the class them inclusion would be meaningful, as it is with the boy with autism. For far too many children inclusion is a con, a slick PC trick that is carried out to save money. This boy is having his education sacrificed to save cash and to allow us to pretend that he is being included. The system sucks.

Why is ADHD so difficult to get support for? IMO they often need it more than many high functioning autistic children, yet I know many many many children with ADHD, with stroppy battling mother's from hell (used as a term of endearmnt ) who get no help whatsoever!

Goodness knows Jimajam, I know that I don't. In general the kids I see with ASD do tend to get more support (not enough in most cases).

Yes I agree with not enough- especially for high functioning. DO you know anyone with ADHD who gets any supoort (without an additional ASD diagnosis?)

Perhaps all the children with ADHD in the borough should be sent on a day trip the LEA offices?

A problem with blanket help for all children with ASD that comes from an LEA or equivalent is that it might not be what you want or even suitable. If there had been "provision" in our borough at the time of statementing it would have been very much harder to get funding for our home ABA program. We've always made lots of noises about how terrible it was that there was no provision but it was actually very much to our advantage. What I think they need to be doing is offering their own provision as one option of several which is kind of what's happening here as, whatever they do, there's never enough places. What I don't understand is that many LEAs are opening ASD units and there are a number of groups of parents starting schools but they're supposed to be trying to close special schools, doesn't make sense. There was a ruling in Canada a while ago (Ontario I think) which makes ABA available to all young children with ASD but parents are fighting it in the courts because it cuts off completely at age 6 (I think?). So, all that glisters .....