school drop off...

[purpleshark]

When I take my DD to school, i treasure that time and spend that time with her, talking to her, sharing cuddles. There are lots of mums there who ignore their children, too busy talking. There are mums that i know get there nearly an hour before school opens, so they can talk to other parents. If i'm that early, i take DD to the park just down the road. I love that i get to take her to school every morning. After dropping her off, i then have to speed walk to work. I also have to put DD in after school club each day, although 4 of those days, its only for about 30 minutes, but means i don't meet any parents at pick up time. I look around when i do drop off and there are lots of parents chatting, laughing etc with each other. Sometimes i wish that i could be one of them (that also keep an eye on their children too though) but then i look at my DD and think, nope, i'd rather be here with her, talking to her. I do feel like a loner when i do pick up at the normal time, they are all stood round chatting, waiting for the school doors to open and i'm stood there, alone. But i guess thats the price you pay eh.

I cannot believe parents regularly get there an hour early. Come on be realistic.
I used to arrive 15 minutes early at one point because that was how it worked out with the other school drop off. I was usually the first there. Even at 10 minutes early there would be very few others there, most parents come in close to the time.

Personally I prefer my children to be playing with their friends before school. Not so I can socialise, but because it gives a valuable insight into their play with their peers. It's a great time for them to mix with children they don't usually play with, and also for you to see who and how they interact.

I don't understand your op

No-one gets to my kids' school playground an hour early to chat.

I know this because for instance at one stage DS2 did a dance class which ran before school (was actually a good plan!) so about a dozen of us were dropping off for a few weeks at 8am on a Wednesday and I don't recall seeing anyone else there. Ever.

I really don't understand yr point OP. Are you miffed they won't talk to you or angry that they abandon their DC? Or are you saying how wonderful it is to talk to your child

I was a supply teacher and so in a position, from the windows, to see parents arrive and no one was ever there an hour early! For a start they would probably be in way of a games lesson. Possibly they were early for a parking space but they would stay in the car.
My DSs were quite cuddly but I wasn't allowed to kiss or cuddle them in the playground!
I would join the PTA and then you would get to know the parents.

The price you pay for what, OP?

I talk to my dd on the way to school, but tbh, as soon as we actually get there, she's off with her friends and I don't get a look-in. If I'm lucky, I might get a quick cuddle before she goes into the classroom, but that's it.

I don't really understand your OP either. It sounds like you're criticising other parents for not talking to their kids more, but what you're really annoyed about is the fact that they won't talk to you. Perhaps you need to try and take the initiative yourself a bit more? It's easy to start a conversation at the school gate, most people love talking about their DCs. :)

If I tried to cuddle my children on the playground they would push me away!

Imagine 2 boys, 8 and 9, haha.

I am not sure from your post if you are a bit judgy or insecure?

you see, I cuddle my kids at home (when nobody can see).

I think it is quite normal to chat to other grown ups, but not a requirement. So don't bother if you don't want to.

But don't accuse those parents of lacking in love ...come on

Don't understand your point OP.

I would think that if you come across in real life as judgemental and snooty as your post does, that might be the reason they're not chatting to you.

"There are mums that i know get there nearly an hour before school opens, so they can talk to other parents."

These mums deserve our respect instead of our ridicule. Anyone who can manage their time that well such that they can get themselves and their DCs up, washed, fed, out the door and STILL be be early by an hour deserves a prize.

OP - Could it be that you are exagerating a bit? :)

Agree with everything bunbaker says. My DCs run off once in the playground as they are excited to see their friends and if I ever dare to kiss DS he wipes it off.

No parents turn up early at our school, maybe 10 mins tops but we have a quick chat, the children run around and then go in to class when the doors open.

I find it more odd what you are saying you do with DD but then if you are happy then its no one elses business although I am guessing you are not that happy as you are posting on here.

Two years at this school - is there not even one mum you look forward to chatting with ?
Might your view be coloured by depression perhaps ?

Op I think you have issues. You come across as judgemental and stuck up.

I am one of those mums that lets their kids play in the car park because I know that when the rush dies down its perfectly safe to potter in whilst I have a natter. I also talk to other parents in the playground! My Poor children!

Have a and get off your high horse.

I don't really understand why you posted this then came back and gave a totally different story.

Do they not have a playground at your school? Why are they in the car park?

In your first post you said you'd rather take your DD to the park than go to school early so you're actually not giving yourself the chance to mix with these people so maybe they think you can't be bothered?

I work so I only do about half the drop offs/pick ups. Most of the mums are back to work in one form or another now so we have set up a facebook page between us so we can ask each other questions about stuff going on at school and now arrange a night out or in once a half term so we can get together and chat as we no longer have much time at school. You have to make the effort though.