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Home Schooling?

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DemiDo · 30/04/2012 14:03

Do you think home schooling could be better than going to public school? If a parent has enough time and energy to home school their children, do you think it could be a good idea.

Ever since I got pregnant I've worried about my lil one getting bullied or something in school. You hear of it more and more now, and all the horrible problems that go with it. I constantly wonder whether it would be a good idea to home school because of this. I never got bullied myself, but I know plenty of people who did and I've seen the devastation it can cause. Because of this do you believe it could be better to be home schooled or am I just being an overly worried, protective mother.

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Colleger · 30/04/2012 15:11

Do you mean state school or private school? Public School in the UK doesn't start until Year 9 normally and they are private schools.

Sunscorch · 30/04/2012 15:17

It's far better to teach your child how to deal with bullies, than keep them locked up in your house until they're 18.

To riff a little neurotic :P

Emandlu · 30/04/2012 15:22

I home educate. My children are not locked up in the house. That is a ridiculous thing to say!

It all comes down to you and your child DemiDo. Home education works for us, but I wouldn't recommend it for everyone in the same way I wouldn't recommend school for everyone.

To home ed because you are worried about hypothetical bullies does seem a little neurotic though. Have a look into home education, just like you would look into local schools, once you have done that you will be in a much better place to make a decision.

teacherwith2kids · 30/04/2012 16:10

I have home schooled, currently have two children in conventional state schooling, and also teach (in a school which most MNers would probably avoid like ther plague).

Firstly I would say that bullying is not necessarily more common than it was in the past. It is more openly discussed, but in many ways that is a positive thing because children are more able to say that they are being bullied, and schools are required to have strong procedures to combat bullying. That doesn't mean it doesn't happen - but my brother's bullying a generation ago was much less effectively dealt with by school than my son's bullying 5 years ago.

Secondly, I would say that bullying is possible outside school as well as in-school - at HE group meetings as well as in school, in Cubs or football as much as in the classroom or playground.

Thirdly, every child's education - whether at home or at school - has to develop in them the capability and confidence to combat bullying, as it is not a phenomenon unique to childhood. Whatever educational route you choose, it has to give your children the tools they need for their independent adult life. It will depend a lot on the child, the schools available to you, the family circumstances etc whether you decide that all those tools - social as well as educational - are best available to the child at home or at school.

Fourthly, I would say that you need to take every child, and every school, as an individual case. In my son's first (nice, small, village) school he was bullied and became so stressed by the chaos in his classroom that he became a selective mute. That was when I HEd him. In his current school (very mixed, big, in a large town) he has absolutely thrived. He has encountered the beginning of bullying behaviour - but the school dealt absolutely robustly with it and it stopped. He walks tall in school because he knows that he can deal with any problems with the help of staff. I could, and did, HE him to 'mend' him, but it is through successfully negotiating the school environment that he has acquired the tools that protect him against bullies.

If you WANT to HE, if the prospect excites you, if you are passionate about it, then by all means go for it. Just don't go into it because you are too scared to face any alternatives - explore all the options available, then make a positive choice.

DialMforMummy · 30/04/2012 17:18

In the nicest possible way, I think you are being over protective. Yes bullying exists and it is nasty but are you going to do? Keep your DC at home all the time including when they are adults?
Going to school will help you DR to grow more independent and to learn to deal with a greater range of social situations than being HE. You can find really nice schools where your DC will/might make friends for life and yes, occasionally your LO will fall out with his friends and have some fights/row with them. That is part of life.
I have experienced some bullying at school but by the same token, I have great memories from school too and never regretted not to be home schooled.

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