I'm not going to give it to him, just use it for reference in a meeting with him and the school nurse. Is it too confrontational?
"DD was being bullied both at home & at school. We discovered this last February, the child doing the bullying left our childminding and it was effectively dealt with at school.
A few weeks later a different child at school bullied her again. This was when the bed-wetting started. This went on for some time with incidents like the ?brown xxxx? conversation happening. Around this time DD had diarrhoea for about 9 weeks ? the Doctor assured us that this had no medical basis, but was stress related or caused by an emotional problem. She dealt with the situation herself ? eventually declining to go to the child?s birthday party and refusing to play with her at school.
It was suggested (by school) that home might be more ?fun? than school, I discussed that with her the same evening I said "how wonderful and exciting it would be with her at home all summer as we could C/M together and she can play with the babies etc" she said "Mum, I don't want to upset you.... but.... school is more fun than home".
I have also discussed returning to work ? which Rose refused to consider at all.
Her end of term report mentioned, ?not badly behaved but seems to lack motivation? ?minor rebellious phases? ?erratic work? and that she is not ?enthuse(d)?.
At a party with DH?s family during the summer holiday ? she seemed surprised that there were so many ?beautiful brown? ladies and girls. She asked if ?brown? people were allowed to be beautiful, when reassured that they were she was shocked. She had a significant problem at the end of the last school year with body image and ?hated? her brown hair and skin. However due to this party, lots of work (scrap-booking) and discussing, along with an encouraging a positive self image. This does seem to be better at the moment.
Until recently whilst subdued at home she is relatively easy to cheer up and enjoys all the normal little girl activities, however over the last half term both Brownie leaders and some adult leaders of youth club have expressed concerns about her confidence and enthusiasm.
I was concerned that she was participating in too many out of school activities so I reduced them.
She used to do:
Swimming two or three times a week
Dancing twice a week (plus at school)
Brownies
Youth Club
Piano Lessons
Gym club
This has reduced to:
Dancing
Brownies
Youth Club
Piano Lessons
Gym Club
I cannot reduce these classes further as she gets upset when I suggest it.
She attended an African Dance day in October half term ? which she loved. It was a session with 15 -20 girls which she went to by herself, without a suggestion of nervousness or problems with confidence. She has also attended private sailing lessons at Whittlingham Broad (one to one) without any problems. She has progressed well with her Gym, moving up a class level unexpectedly
I took her to the Indigo Dyslexia Centre to be checked. I was told she was not dyslexic (but had problems pronouncing some words ? apparently often due to reading (silently) above her age), but was extremely bright especially in Maths. A teacher who visits our house regularily has also told me this. She considers DD?s understanding of Maths and mathematical concepts to be excellent.
Currently she is wetting her bed 3-5 times a week, we are booked into the Enuresis clinic, and have discussed strategies with a specialist nurse. The nurse is surprised that she is dry during the school holiday (but it is normal that she is dry when she goes away or for a sleep over) and feels that this suggests it is a school based problem."