If your child refuses to go in the door at school in the mornnig, what does the teacher do ?

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I ask cos I am having problems with dd2 at the mo, and one of the probs is that she doesn't want to go into school.

She says she feels sick, i ignore and take her to the door, where the dinner lady / teaching assistant stands and watches me struggle to try (and fail) to get her to go in.

In the end she walked off and I was stood there in the entrance hall with dd, having a tantrum.

In the end I started to walk with dd up to her classroom to hand her over to her teacher as I couldn't think whatelse to do.

Half way there another teaching assitant appeared and said 'oh i was just coming to fetch her'.

What happens at your school if the kids won't go in ?

I had this nearly every day for a year with DS, from the Easter holidays of Reception to the Easter holidays of Yr1. It didn't help that he didn't hit it off with his reception teacher, neither did most of the parents. His yr1 teacher and TA were fantastic though, they let me take him to the cloakroom at bell time, some days he would go in with the rest of the children, most days he had to be peeled off me by the TA. I lost count of the number of times I asked him to show me where to put his lunch bag, and, where his seat was in the classroom - this was just to get him in the classroom.

He's still not keen on school, yr4 now, but goes in and 'tolerates' it. I'm sure he enjoys it more than he says.

We've also been trying the fish oils, tried the liquid and capsules, we're now on the milk which he is drinking loads of. He knows it's got the fish oils in, his comment when he first tried it was 'It just tastes like normal milk!' I think he expected it to taste like the capsules.

She went in fine today, so i am a bit confused. Mind you i think she just wanted to get in the warm.

I am still monitoring her diet and behaviour but tbh nothing seems to trigger anything off as far as i can see so far.

The only triggers seem to be me. Only thing I have definatly noticed is that her OCD comes back when her behaviour is bad too.

I think she definatly has a problem with me working, but other than that I can't think of anything.

Interesting , is she noticeably worse the day after you've been working ? Maybe she is sensing some of the tension between you and dp about it ? It might be worth asking to review the OCD again with GP and/or an Educational Psychologist (althoguh the one you saw before wasn't very helpful iirc) when you have kept your diay a few weeks. When does your course begin , as hopefully that will oepn soem doors for you to get additional support.

I was at work last night so no it doesn't occur afterwards but possibly the mornings of the days I am going to be working. Will keep a note of that one because interestingly, I am off tonight and she was fine this morning.

She also went to be for dp absolutly fine.

The course starts on feb 2nd, and I can't wait.

I think the psych running the course is the same one who dd saw about her OCD, so I will definatly mention the conection.

prob cos it was Monday yesterday

my dd1 is always more clingy on a Monday morning, ditto after holidays